My oldest 2 are GT, but my youngest I think is below average, suggestions?

[Jenn0305]

I have a 13y girl & an 8y boy that are both GT, my almost 5y boy who is due to start k5 next school year. I work with him & try to prep him on things, but feel he isnt ready for school yet. Im very nervous & worried about it, not at all like my other 2 children. Is there any suggestions I can do to TRY to help him?

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um, love each child for what they are?

He's 4...

I love them all the same, just worried he isnt ready for school on soo many levels & dont want him to have any problems when he does start school & was just looking for some advice. He is 4, he will be 5 in a month & a half & again, im just asking for advice to help get him more ready & prepared to start school.

In what way do you feel he isn't ready?

So why is this in gifted and talented then? If you just want advice on getting him prepared for school!

well being 'above average' or 'g and t' is really not everything!! especially not at that age or indeed at any age, imo it is highly over-rated, what about EQ or just being a nice friendly person?

He's 4 and starts school in September and it's now January...

WOW people on this website are RUDE! I thought this was a website about parents helping parents.

I think that (hard though it may be to hear) it is actually helpful to point out that you are putting ridiculous pressure on a very young pre-schooler. Just let him be a kid, FFS.

sorry it was the way you were comparing him with your other 'g and t' children and calling him 'below average'. Maybe you posted it in the wrong type of thread.

You were the one that called a 4 year old below average...

Don't worry, if he can dress himself and use the bathroom unaided then that's all the preparation needed. Encourage him and try not to compare.

He may turn out to be at bright as his siblings, or not, it really doesn't matter.

Don't let him feel he isn't doing well enough.

But your post isn't very specific is it? You need to say in what ways you feel he isn't ready if you want advice. Are you talking academically? Emotionally? Behaviour?

What are your actual concerns? Given that you have posted in G&T it's fair for people to assume you feel he isn't academically gifted like his siblings in which case I would say leave him be.

If he struggles with things like personal independence, dressing, going to the toilet, social skills then yes of course address these issues.