Hi, I am posting here because I don't know where to turn. My dd, 3.6 years old is having issues at her nursery. Did any of your smart offsprings have similar issues? She is very active, chatty, intense, and curious, perfectionist type, but is having a social problem. For this reason she is going to be refered to ed psy. I also think she may have higher learning potential (but I can be wrong. ) but this is not strongly highlighted at nursery as her issues are more apparent than her strength.
So this is the situation, here we go (sorry for a long post):
The nursery teacher told me she has difficulty switching between the tasks (say from her working on one task to say, a group time), and not interested in other children but rather play on her own or with teachers. Can not sit through the circle time or a group activity (ok it's 30min and I think that's too long for 3-4 years old) especially if it is a passive learning.
My view is as for switching the tasks, i always encouraged focusing as much as she can so that she can indulge concenrating and i try not to interfere until she is done. The latter for sure, I can confirm, she always had an adult to keep her entertained, she loves playing some elaborate role play going in a rocket to Jupitor or just having a tea party of some sort and she can ask questions or read her a book and talk about it( not story books but fact books)
The nursery group is super small and mostly boys , and I just think they are on different wavelength. She keeps on asking me if she can play on her own in nursery and said other children are boring.
I think she is reasonably ahead of her age in terms of reading and math. She loves rhyming, making her own songs, spelling words like elephant and numberjacks, reading first readers (but more than a cat sat on a mat), math wise, she is comfortable up to hundreds, and can do simple sums and subtractions. Extremely good memories, happy to learn how to count in 5 languages and learn few foreign words. More into facts books like space, trains, animal encyclopaedia, periodic table than fantasy stories. Can sit 45 minutes for Lego and doing arty things, or 25 piece puzzle under 5 minutes, but when uninterested her focus is short. She knew the colours and shapes by 1 and half. Learned to count to 20 and most of alphabet by 2.
She does like to approach other girls in a park, who are much older, and try's to play, and most of the time they would run off as they are not interested in playing with a preschooler. When she approaches other girls of her own age in a park, she asks them if they would like to play with her, and asks their name, and usually get a blank stare... Just on rare occasions she can click with somebody and they run around with each other holding hands and play pretend play.
I am losing sleep over 1)she might not be enjoying nursery (they are not pushing her too hard on intellectual stuffs as they are focusing in keeping up the social side of things like learning rules and turn taking, social conversation), 2) teachers are having tough time controlling her, and constantly being told off affecting her self esteem 3) whether she will cope once she goes to a reception, 4) she might be "labeled" with ADHD, or asperger 5) not sure if NHS ed psy will pick up on her learning potential.
I feel worried that I might not giving her the environment she needs and enjoys outside the home, although I recognise that social training is essential. I do my best at home to keep her stimulated with whatever she wants to learn and give her a lot of reassurance and love.
What can I do? Is this the right way to go? Would she grow out of it? Do i need to arrange a special tutor to help her train socially? I feel really lost.
Your wise advice or help is much appreciated! Thank you.
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MamaM76 · 09/10/2013 11:22
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