Daydreaming in class ............

[AnxiousElephant]

Teachers comment on this at every parents evening and also dd's lack of organisation. Is it possible that she has a disability. She is in year 1 and achieving well above average for her year.

Thanks.

Well, yes, obviously. Being above average doesn't vaccinate against disability, as my two gifted children with disabilities will tell you.

If you are asking 'could she have attention deficit ADHD?' no idea. Do you think she has? Have school
Done a snap IV assessment?

She might just be disorganised. There are conditions like dyspraxia that might mean she's clumsy which could be part of it.

I'm sure there will be someone here who has more experience of this sort of thing than me, but in my experience schools tend to say these things just for the sake of saying something. If you don't notice any problems at home, I wouldn't worry, you know her best.

that description would have fitted me at her age, and also fits my younger daughter. I don't think either of us has a disability. If she is happy and achieving well I wouldn't worry. Daydreaming is an important life skill - it helps us cope with boring meetings, long waits in doctors surgeries, etc. I'd hate to be without it.

she does daydream at home too, so I do know she does it. She just seems unable to keep to task with mundane things i.e. she has had the same bedtime routine for 5 years - have bath, read/tv a bit, do teeth and toilet then bed. Yet if I simply say 'please go upstairs and get ready for bed' she would get distracted and would not have done one of those things. Yet in other areas she can be completely focused, although often rushes or doesn't complete school work She has a brilliant memory but is rarely able to remember to bring out her water bottle at hometime? Constantly loses clothing at school.

What is a snap IV assessment?

pourmeanotherglass!

My DS2 was always daydreaming and was very very disorganised. The days when he remembered his school bag, his lunch bag and his gym bag were few and far between and I have never known someone be as lost in thought as he could be. As responsible parents we ignored this and sat back while he got detentions for forgetting things. I didn't even remind him to revise for tests.

Now, he is 17 and is really organised and never forgets things, I believe he learnt from his mistakes and has become much more mature. He can be a bit daydreamy outside of class but, I presume, that he is ok in class.

If she's bright then maybe she's bored and daydreaming to compensate. Or maybe she's just a daydreamer.

if she has a brain she'll be bored in class - and her own thoughts will be far more interesting than anything else going on. likewise if you send her off to do something, she'll notice another interesting thing, and that's it, attention taken. normal. well, normal for me, anyway. a colleague specialises in a d d and says its that, and linked with the asperger's.

"She has a brilliant memory but is rarely able to remember to bring out her water bottle" - you just described my 5 yr old DD too. I actually ask teacher if she felt DD was worse than other kids as she was losing/forgetting so much and could be so slow to do simple things like change her shoes. Teacher said worse than some, but not the worst. She is easily side tracked on to (for her) more interesting things than her water bottle or shoes - like watching everyone else and listening to their conversations. I wouldn't jump the gun and worry about ADD or anything else unless there are other worries niggling you. Some kids are just more disorganized or take longer to get the hang of being responsible and quick.

That was me. Totally disorganised and day-dreamed. I went to Oxford and now have a creative well paid job and people paid to organise my life when I need it :) I do NOT have Aspergers! My children are the same. So it's not necessarily a bad thing. Day-dreams are ideas, remember.

My DS is a bit like this. He is very bright, has good concentration, but I have to ask him 10 times to do something basic like brush his teeth, he would go to school without his trousers on if didn't remind him, and he has lost his school shoes twice this term.

He is Year 3, but his Reception brother is better organised.

My very lovely friend once said that it was because he was too busy planning how to run the world, to worry about boring details, like shoes.

That's me and my dd1 too. We aren't much for organisation and details. I'm getting much better now I have to be with a full time teaching job and 2 dcs to organise but we still have mornings where we can't get out of the house because i've forgotten/lost something vital, or my coat has been left on my peg at school . I'm 33 and have no disabilities, just don't really care that much about being organised.
Dd1 is 12 and in y7. She is apparently gifted in every academic subject but in the past 3 months she has lost 1 coat, 1 mobile phone (and put another one through the washing machine), 1 trainer (how do you lose just 1? ), 1 school jumper, a lunchbox and several pieces of homework that she has done, printed off and then lost before they make it to class. She has no organisational skills at all. We are working together to try and improve this part of our lives.

We both like to daydream too, and I don't see any reason to stop that as long as it's not impacting on our ability to do whatever else needs to be done.

Thank you all lovely ladies Feel much better knowing that it isn't likely to be a problem