Oh dear God but sometimes she drives me NUTS

[adoptmama]

No real need to post really since the title sums it up!

But really the obsessive questioning, control freak behaviour, her Little Miss Know-It-All attitude to me and her (unintentional I know but still...) rudeness to her friends as she tells them what to do or not do, and how to do it......

Whilst I know I got off easy with the Terrible Twos - she was as easy as could be as she was so verbal and able to be reasoned with - the F***g Fives are driving me crazy! A three foot tall, motor mouth pseudo teenager.

Education is clearly wasted on her as she already knows everything!

Please tell me I am not alone.

And that this too shall pass!

might not pass...

let's just say that sounds exactly like me growing up and i'm still like it

My DD is 7 now, and still acts like this! With a baby to look after now too (plus I work from home!) I've found the only way I can cope is to make sure she has something to do all the time.

Did it get any easier for you when DD started school?

Don't think starting school made it easier actually. I think it has just provided a bigger group for her to 'organise' :)

And since, by and large, her peers allow her to do this, then I think it has made things worse. One of her teachers filmed her the other week for over 15 minutes organising everyone on the playground into a PE class. She apparently had perfect classroom discipline!!!

The trouble from my perspective is she seems to think it is ok to extend that treatment to me. Sooner or later I expect her friends will also tell her to wind her neck in as well! Ah, happy days.

Ha! I was also a bossy little madam, called "Zippy" (after the Rainbow character) by my nanny at the time. (Sadly without the zip feature.) I had younger sisters though who would regularly resort cheerfully to physical violence.

Any chance of an out-of-school activity with mostly older children? I was very in awe of 'big girls' at that age at Brownies/gym club/drama club etc.

I've got one just like that. She now insists on mopping all the floors in the house every other day before bathtime (3 floors, no carpets except bedrooms). It's because, apparently, the cleaner doesn't do it properly.

She's 5.

She also:-

1. puts her 8YO brother to bed sometimes
2. refused to go to ski school after the first session because they'd already shown her how to ski
3. takes our dog out into the garden every Saturday for 'training'
4. chooses all our meals for the week (to the last detail. And Heaven help me if I accidentally serve carrots on the Thursday instead of the Wednesday)

I doubt that she'll change. I read somewhere that Condoleeza Rice was so strong-willed that when she was 5 and her family redocorated their house, she ended up choosing all the colour schemes because her parents just 'gave up' trying to take control. That kind of thing I can so understand.

ds is 13 and he's like this. I really do feel your pain.

13?

I was kinda hoping these types would at least dampen down by then???

Please excuse me whilst I

God, I've been waiting. He's lovely but asks so many questions and wants to know about everything, even what my emails are about! He'll sit next to me as I'm working (I write books) and will correct my grammar, which is incredibly annoying. He's rude to people as he's so abrupt and I'm worried someone will thump him. He doesn't trust what other people say so he'll argue over it and is so stubborn. It's a relief when he goes to bed some days. I'd just love it if he allowed me to have the last word without him carrying on.

Ds is still like this at age 11.

He talks constantly.

It's like he has to tell me every single thought that enters his head. He also has to explain everything in great detail. Why use 10 words when you can use 5678.

Oh i feel your pain. Have to admit I'm also a little relieved, it's not just me then!

DD just turned 6, but just before her birthday I was trying to get her to clean her teeth properly, and she turned to me with a big sigh, hand on hip and said, "Mummy, don't be silly I don't need help, I'm nearly a teenager"!!!!

Yes, just yes to all of this.

Yes, yes, yes! But just wait until they actually do know more than you do.........

Stick them all in a drama club! It's great outlet and they will meet others cut from the same cloth!

hmm, might not work, though.
I couldn't do any of that outgoing stuff - I was bossy and obnoxious and precocious, but I would not get up in front of people like that!

How do you deal with a child so nosy they give you grief when you won't let them read your emails?

I am sorry to laugh but the teacher filming your DD in the playground organising the others made me laugh out loud..

No advice though sorry

oh god I am soooo glad it's not just mine! A friend yesterday even said she was a little bossy :) Couldn't argue with that but am trying to make DD realise how this will make others feel/feel about her if she doesn't turn it down a bit!

DD1 is like this, and gets very shirty when she gets caught out being wrong about something/not knowing everything about something. She's always been like it, is now 11 and shows no sign of changing. And yes, she is very bright.

DD2 is just as bright and is just realising she is being walked over - and has decided not to be. Our house is a war zone on a regular basis, today being a case in point - after two weeks of blissful truce we are at it again...