Evening! Like a lot of mums ive been net searching gifted and talented and this board pops up in search results! I think my son is still too young to really say (he's 2 and 7 months) but following yet another strange tantrum - he stood up in his nativity today and told all the other children after every song to stop singing and telling the adults to stop clapping - combined with his learning etc I started searching on the subject again after someone else suggested it to me.
I just wanted to know your guys experiance really on behaviour when they were of pre-school age and how you dealt with it.
bit of background DS has fab memory, and by 2 he could read his name, pick those letters out from the alphabet, he could count things easily up to 20 etc etc, reads all the numbers clearly from sight. I once broached the subject with another mum who was really suprised and I never mentioned it again! I dont want to be a 'compare kids' mum as I know they can all even out in the end, I know he is bright and I dont push him, when he takes an interest we go for it, like a lot of 'bright' kids he knows all his shapes, colours and his vocab is excellant, knew at least 50 words at 17+ months and now talks in sentances and properly generally. Childminder and others comment on how he is more advanced for his age in lots of areas. I've checked him against the factsheet on NAGC this evening and he apears to show all the signs. I dont want to make an issue of it at the moment just pleased at how he's progressing.
His bahaviour however also seems to tie in exaclty, he doesnt get on great with same age to the point he seems to be bit horrible sometimes! much prefers older children, massivly independent, extremely bossy, sense of humour amazing, at two he joked with me 'Daddy, come here' with massive grin on his face! If I say, ummm im not daddy, he would say, okaaayyy, Grandad come here! Still does that now when he fancies it amongst other things! I was suprised to read about the sensitivty thing, he loves the feel of bare skin! LOL to the extent he asks me to take off cardi for cuddles! LOL His tantrums are awful, to the point ive left tots groups crying. When other kids are sat there nicely eating bics and having thier drinks he's the one having an uproar coz he doesnt understand why he's not allowed three bics and not just one, or for other reasons I dont know! And like the nativity thing today. I just dont see other children acting up in the same way he does as he is sssoooo over sensative. He would collect up all the 'trucks' at tots group and not let anyone else play with them...or all the diggers in the sandpit.... you can see in his eyes questioning everything if that makes sense. He is a right monkey.
I've made an effort this evening to make a list of ideas of extra things we can do next week and hoping that its possibly a boredem thing and try and keep reallly busy, but ive avoided groups for the past few months as was getting to the point that frustrations would set in after 10-15 mins and would just have to leave feeling like the other mums are looking at me like 'whats the matter with him!' Starting pre-school has been good for him and he's been there three weeks now breaking up today.
Anyone else had similar experiances and how did you help your little ones at this age with frustrations/behaviour?
I might be going in the wrong direction here but any comments would be appreciated.
Thankyou very very muchly!
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxx