One dc G and T. One not

[cokezone1]

How do you cope when one dc brighter than other? Have a 4 and 6 year old dd's. 4 year old is G and T!. Not made a big thing of it but older dc is noticing as younger is catching her up on reading levels.
I have explained that she has other talents etc.

You do what you are doing. Explain that everyone is different. Children do have to come to terms with the fact that there are likely to be people better at certain stuff than they are.

It's one of those things imo where stressing about it will only make it worse.

I dont know if at 4 shes likely to 'stay' gifted and talented having had children with 2 years between them myself Id say it almost always will equal out at some point ....I just let them learn and do what they can as best as they can.

How did you discover at 4 shes G&T?

I agree that 4 is usually too early to really tell.

Do not make a big deal out of it - one very important thing is that you do not overcompensate by not praising DD2 as much (ie in order to avoid upsetting DD1) - I think this mistake was made with my DSDs. They both have talents and they both need praise.

School advised me. Main difference between them as moment is reading. They is only one band between them. However, as people rightly say they will both be reading the same books in a couple of years. Thank you.

DD1 is G&T, DD2 is not although not thick just not exceptional. They have completely different personalities and this is what we develop and focus on.
DD1 may get 95-100% on all tests and the praise and encouragement to continue to achieve.
DD2 is an athlete and always gets picked for sports events and will place in her events. She gets the credits and praise for this.
DD1 is hopeless at all sport except dance. DD2 is always in the top 25% of her class.

Mine are both considered G+T (son 11.5, daughter 9.10) in various areas, but I have the same problem. My son has just been allocated a grammar place for September. My daughter will be going to secondary school the following year (he's currently yr 6, she's yr 5) but I don't think she'll pass the 11+.

It's really hard, because she desperately wants to go to grammar. I know she'll do fine wherever she goes, because she works really hard. With my son, I was worried because if he hadn't got into grammar he'd never do any work (he's a lazy little bugger!).

I always 'big up' my daughter's achievements (she's great at drama, literacy, music and art). And I always praise her for working so hard at school in general. I think that's all I can do.