My 3yr old advice needed please

[banks78]

Hi all new here, and came here through a series of google links! haha

Just a bit of advice needed really on my 3yr old girl. She is very intelligent for her age, I have no idea if she is gifted.

But I was just wondering do any of you have over sensitive/emotional/clingy or even frightened children above their age range?

I feel at the moment I am dealing with an adolescent 3 yr old who wont leave my side. And whatever my response I am coming up blank.

Whole thread here about over-sensitve/clingy 2-3yo children.

My daughter used to always scream when any of her friends came near her. If I asked if she wanted to go home she would say no and after meeting up she would always be talking about her friends and calling them that. It used to really frustrate me and embarass me because the other 4 girls would be chasing each other and having so much fun. I could see in my daughters face that she wanted to join in but just didn't have the confidence. My friends were really nice about it and always tried to divert their children and tell me that all children are different and that there has to be quiet children as well as boistrous ones. I'm thankful for such supportive friends and my daughter (now 2) is really coming out of herself. She still gets a little distressed if things get very boistrous but she no longer screams. You should help your friend through this as her child is obviously a reserved character unlike his friends and needs plenty of reasurance. The comment from the other Mum was not helpful though - quiet reasurrance is better.

My above message was supposed to be linked to another thread so not sure how it got here. I'm new to this sight. Oh well, never mind, just wasted my time.

This sounds like my dd who is 3.6yrs. She is very bright with a high reading age etc. but socially she is quite reserved and withdrawn. She too wants to join in with other girls, and talks no-stop about them after we come home, but seems too reserved and shy to enter in to it. She hasn't formed friendships like the other girls at her nursery.

I wouldn't describe her as 'frightened', though, although she is very sensitive. This may not help (and may be a load of rubbish) but sometimes I wonder whether very bright children are able to understand quite adult concepts and read about things that their peers don't, and their little brains and hearts can't cope with it. I have started being very careful what my dd is exposed to because she understands so much and is very intuitive and observant. We try never to argue or talk about adult negative things. She just needs constant reassurance and confidence-building, so that she feels secure. And maybe then she might venture out to make friends?