DH has AS and over the past few years has become worse. He's quite a bouyant person and doesnt let it get him down too mcuh but quite limiting in a lot of ways. Hes been back and forth to the consultant who wanted to give him some new drugs initially to help. Now they have assessed him and hes not qutie bad enough for the new drugs (read, they are very expensive!!) and they are suggesting that surgery will be a better option.
I have to admit im FREAKING OUT a bit about dh having surgery to improve movement in his spine. what if they damage it further or it goes wrong and he ends up parylised or something? Im also freaking out about how much sick time he will have off and wether his sick pay will cover the mortgage if he is off for a long time. I dont earn too much - im self employed and work can be sporadic. I guess i could try to get some part time work to suplement income, but then what would we do with the kids? We do have health insurance but as it is a pre existing condition they will be funny i think about paying out. Initially he was having private health care and then the insurance company stopped paying for it as they said it was a pre existing condition, and that they will only pay if it gets significantly worse ( i think).
Plus i keep reading stuff on the internet and it is terrifying me but I cant stop. I just look at dh, it would be fantastic if they could do someohting to give him more movement in his spine, but are the risks worth it? do you think they would think it would be weird if i went to the next appointment too to ask a few questions?