DH has found a lump

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Hi all,

I am looking for a little advice from someone who has been through this before.

I came downstairs this morning to find DH looking a bit shellshocked. He said to me "Can you make an appointment with the doctor for me, I have a lump on my testicle"
I said ok, tried not to panic etc etc and assured him that it would be fine, there are lots of things it could be and I would make an appointment today. He has since gone to bed. I think he may have known about this for a while as he has been very distant and snappy, I wondered what was up.

I know he is absolutely terrified and so am I to be honest, my dad passed away from cancer last year and it is still very very fresh in both our minds. I'm just not quite sure what to say to my DH so as not to seem uncaring or dismissive, but I don't want to panic him also.

For him to actually ask to go to the doctor is really unusual so I know he must be thinking the worst, and he said to me it's got to be either cancer or torsion but it doesn't really hurt.

He's only 36 and has never had any health problems (although smokes alot) and we are expecting our first DC in Spetember so we are both a bit highly strung at the moment.

Can anyone please give me some advice. 4 hours till his appointment and it seems like a lifetime.

Dh found a lump a couple of years ago. He went for a scan and it was a harmless cyst. Waiting for the scan and the result was a rough time though.

I wish you all the best.

Lots of things cause lumps on testicles - cysts and varicose veins are two examples, so it doesn't have to be cancer by any means.

The GP will almost certainly refer him for an ultrasound, so expect this, and it is totally routine.

Even if it is testicular cancer, it is very, very treatable - just think of Lance Armstrong

My dh found a lump, went to doctors and it turned out to be a fat lump, mmm nice. Had an op to remove it and all was well. It is good that your dh is going to the doctors, my dh waited months because he was frightened.

Has he had the snip?

Dh found a lump 2 years ago.

Had it checked out ie scanned and it was a scar tissue from his op.

But as CMOT says there are lots of causes,glad he's not burying his head like lots of men do.

Good lucjk with the appointment

Before I met DH he had a lump on one of his testicles. He brought it up with one of his friends who just laughed (immature obviously). He was in his 20s at the time. Went straight to GP once he discovered it only to be told it was nothing to worry about.

Best to get it checked ASAP, as it could be absolutely nothing to which would ease your DHs mind or it may need further investigation.

Good luck.

Thankyou for all your kind advice.

Posh - no he hasn't had the snip so couldn't be scar tissue and I don't think he has hurt himself either.

I was just really shocked at him asking to go to the doctors, he hasn't been in the 5 years I have known him and on the few occasions where he was sick and I demanded he go, he backed out just before leaving the house!

I am proud of him though for not burying his head and I know he must feel a bit embarassed (I will be showing my bits to a stranger in a few months and im dreading it!).

We are not in the UK and have booked a private doctor so if any scans need done, hopefully he can have them done straight away or in the morning.

Mrsgordon I have had that wait a few times and it's very rough. I'm glad your DH was ok!

i follow the general opinion - it will probably be nothing to worry about, but well done on him for getting it checked

good luck