I'm coming off the pill - am done with hormonal contraception - But I don't want a baby!

[Disenchanted3]

I've had it with the pill, I constantly feel tired on it, I have awful headaches if I miss one or start my break, it makes me so, so moody! and now the GP thinks its causing my cervix to grow extra cells which are leading to bleeding during sex.

Am thinking of using charting and condom, has anyone done this sucessfully?

My mum got pg with a coil - eptopic type of pg - wasnt nice so that put me off - i know its probably one in a million but id rather it was all done with. Perhaps we should both go to make absolutly sure nothing joins back together.

I'm not trusting the coil on its own. Coil and condoms here. And I still won't have sex when I know I'm fertile. Coil or not.

Have you got any mutual friends that have had a vasectomy that can reassure him? I would be a little cross perhaps that I've spent years taking pills, having foreign devices inserted, giving birth through major abdominal surgery and dh would refuse a vasectomy. Thankfully, dh is happy to have one when the time comes.

Yes we have a close relative and a few friends who have all managed to pile it on about how horific it was and how there balls were like mellons . It has not helped the situ. The hole situ and his lack of responsibilty is making me a little cross but then he does have this big fear factor.

It's fine that he is frightened. It's good that he can admit it. But it's not so good that he won't deal with it. He should talk to the GP in the first instance, especially about being frightened.

My good friend had a vasectomy recently. We gave him a lift home from the hospital and he was a little sore but fine. I remember my Dad having one, he drove himself home, shrugged, said it was okay.

I do wonder if the melon balls and horrific pain isn't macho posturing and oneupmanship. It's not fair and it's not helping. Could you start a thread on here asking for MNers to describe their dh's reactions afterwards? Might help to hear it's not all horrific pain from people that can be honest.

He had a referal soon after our ds (whos 4 in Nov), the letter came though to see the surgeon guy and at that point he cancelled and it went under the carpet till now. He has just rang and made an appt to see doc to discuss it and how he will get over it and his appointment is the 22nd June - i am led to beleive its 6 weeks after the referal average round here for the actual op. I could do with ringing up and requesting a quicker one to get it over with but suspect dh would not be to pleased.

I hope you get something sorted btw disenchanted - sorry i hijacked a bit but i wasa thread i could join in on for once

I considered the cap thingy for a short while as well but then thought id just get it mixed up with my moon cup or just forget as genrally i have a crap memory.

Nappy Dh says that he wants to do his own research and make his own decisions. Which I do understand but he expects to at least be involved in coversation about my contraception and I would like to at least know which way he is leaning. He says that all his research tells him it should be fine, he should do it, so I wonder if it's some sort of masculinity issue that is bothering him.

This annoys me as he is the one that is adamant NO MORE KIDS. Maybe that just means no more as long as I am taking all responsibility? Maybe a little mean, but this is tense stuff! I do not want to be solely dealing with all baby and reproducing shit any more.

I do not want a general either.

Well if he isnt booked in by end of June im going to get booked in myself. I wish you luck pfft.

you too nappy.

SOrry for hijacking your thread, Dis!

Hi there
We use condoms, always have and works well. I did see an interesting post on natural contraception which might be worth checking out.

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Pfft an update - dh went for his docs appt to ask about it and came back with some athletes foot cream he does not have athletes foot - anyway he then he said dared himself to mention it and the doctor he reckons said if he was worried aboutit he shouldnt bother but will refere him and its up to him what he does with the letter - helpful then. Dh is now walking about the hosue in a jelly legged manner. I donthave high hopes. Have you had progress?