i have an Alcoholic mum

[choclab]

my mums drinking has got worse over the past year ,im so worried i dont know what to do .
she has drank for many many years , through a divorce ,12 years ago , has partner , but he doesnt seem to see what i do or choses not to .

at moment she has all classic signs of cirosis of the liver ,

does anyone have experience of similar or what should i do .
thanks

Sorry to hear your Mum's drinking is spiralling, choclab

To be honest, speaking as a recovering alcoholic, there's not an awful lot you can do beyond tell the truth - if you are worried, tell her. If you are shocked, tell her. Tell her what you see, how she has changed, what worries you (if you haven't already, that is). Then get some support for yourself. Is there AlAnon near you? They could give you some practical suggestions as well as support, I would think. Also, talk to your GP?

Most of the time, if she doesn't want help herself, there will be very little you can do other than take good care of yourself and stand by for if/when she does.

Its awful watching those we love destroy their health, I'm so sorry

thank you Elibean,
Can i ask did you get help?or have you managed to stop by yourself . (you dont have to answer if you dont want to )

i am really worried that if i do speak my mind will push her down further , i have in the past tried the softly softly approach ie..im worried about you mum , its becouse i love you approach etc and she really wasnt interested in whet i had to say ...saying i dont need a lecture from you etc ...so i kind of backed off , now some months later now but things worse not better .

thanks again

I'd also recommend AlAnon. A close relative of mine has a drink problem and AlAnon were a great help to me and my mum. It helped us take a step back and realise that the drinker has to ask for help - you can't influence their decisions/lifestyle choices - they have to do it for themselves. Hope things get better for you.