Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

General health

Mumsnet doesn't verify the qualifications of users. If you have medical concerns, please consult a healthcare professional.

Flip

Original poster

anyone else only had caesareans and breast fed and ...

22 replies

daffsntulips · 09/05/2010 08:15

has painful sex?

It is getting me down.

OP posts:

Original poster

daffsntulips · 09/05/2010 08:41

so is there anyoe who only had sections and breastfed but sex is comfortable?

OP posts:

traceybath · 09/05/2010 08:44

Lubrication is possibly an issue - bf 'dries' you up.

It may help if you're still bf.

MrsWembley · 09/05/2010 08:56

Yes, but never connected the three. We are just taking things vvvvvv slowly. I had a smear just after I stopped breast feeding and was told I have an... I can't remember exactly what the nurse said it was but it was something along the lines of a very minor prolapse, a very small part of the uterus protruding through the cervix. She said most women who have this don't notice it and, when I asked, said yes, it may be why sex is painful at the moment.

LoveBeingAHungParliament · 09/05/2010 09:00

Have you got anything on your mind which could be affecting you?

differentnameforthis · 09/05/2010 09:03

Where is it painful?
How old is baby?
Are you still breastfeeding?

I have had 2 sections. I have bf 1 child. But not currently!

I do get dry during sex so have to use lube now & then.

Pendulum · 09/05/2010 09:03

Yes,

I was eventually diagnosed with vaginal vestibulitis (also called vulvodynia)

It comes and goes but is worse when I am stressed.

Never connected it with CS/ BF though.

Original poster

daffsntulips · 09/05/2010 09:29

I do know more about it than I told you initially but wanted to see if anyone else had experience.

I have been to see a consultant about it as the 'babies' are now almost teenagers!!

I was told that as you breast feed you release ???- a hormone to help heal the perineum. But mine was fine cos of the sections, but consultant said I had kind of 'overhealed'.
He said he could operate and snip it or I could try perineum massage/stetch using a cream. I opted for the latter as the thought of an op wasn't appealing.

But it didn't work and for years DH and I have just put up with it; we rarely have penetrative sex. The occasions when we do (like last night) result in me being sore for days!

I would love to hear of someone who has/had similar and how they cope , what they did etc etc

Thanks

OP posts:

Original poster

daffsntulips · 09/05/2010 11:27

have you all disaperaed?

OP posts:

Original poster

daffsntulips · 09/05/2010 13:43

anyone?

OP posts:

ButterPie · 09/05/2010 13:47

Not ignoring, just have nothing to add.

I have had two sections, still bf the second, sex not the same but I put it down to my pelvis still being in bits from SPD.

cositjustisok · 09/05/2010 18:48

No experience but I think the 3 are not linked. Could it not possibly be that you are experiencing painful sex......for another reason and not cos you had c sections and breast fed about 13 years ago. I would think it could be unrelated but as happened at the same time (ish) is being "blamed"....sorry if this does not help, but feel it could be something else. Hope you get it sorted.

Original poster

daffsntulips · 09/05/2010 19:46

Maybe you are right.

I can't find any evidence (on the net)of the three being linked. But that is what the consultant told me a few years back.

OP posts:

chocolateme · 10/05/2010 14:53

daffsntulips I had that over healing youre talking about after the speedy birth of DD, 3 lots of surgery down there later & its good as new!! Maybe you could still have it snipped. The procedure is called the "Blair Bell" & worked a treat. At the time i was at my wits end & quite prepared for my consultant to sew me up completly!!...

chocolateme · 10/05/2010 14:54

forgot I BF but no section....

Original poster

daffsntulips · 10/05/2010 19:03

thanks chocoalteme ... 3 lots of surgery! Why did you need 3 lots, were they trying different things or could they not get it right?
I have tried googling the procedure but just come up with links to the doctor who was Blair Bell

It is so good to talk to someone who has experienced similar. Thanks

OP posts:

skandi1 · 10/05/2010 19:36

Me too. Sex was painful whilst still BFing and I had section.

My was an E CS and as the surgeon pushed DDs head back up (sorry TMI!) she said: "oops I've just torn your perineum".

Really not the words I wanted to hear preceeding, "I'm making the incision now"....

Anyway that and the BF hormornal slush is why I think it hurt.

I just avoided sex for many months. Not necessarily the answer but it was just too sore.

BTW once section was over and I was in recovery giving DD first BF, surgeon came in with her team and proclaimed the operation a success (obviously, as the baby came out .) and kindly informed me that she had not bothered to repair my perineum as she thought I'd rather get out of theater.

How awful is that!!! Perhaps your perineum suffered a similar fate and they "forgot" to tell you??

Anyway hope it settles soon for you.
X

skandi1 · 10/05/2010 19:41

In addition to above...

As surgeon was telling me about perineum, she was leaning over the screen and I know she was wearing a mask but I could have sworn she was smiling.

Grrr. If I ever get hold of her, I tear something of hers.

Sorry ranting on your thread without being helpful....

CaptainNancy · 10/05/2010 19:48

I have had 2 sections and bf both babies (17mo and 15mo ongoing) but I have no experience of perineum tightening.

I'm really sorry this is happening to you... and for so long too. I hope you get it resolved soon, as painlessly as possible.

Is it worth starting a thread in childbirth to ask if anyone else has experience of perineum tightening- someone like mears or lulumama or treedelivery may know more (midwives).

Good luck.

Original poster

daffsntulips · 10/05/2010 20:50

This isn't going to go away on its own.
It has been like this for over 10 years!

I think I need to see the GP again.

OP posts:

skandi1 · 11/05/2010 09:08

Sorry Daffsntulips. Think I missed the point about the lenght of time its gone on.

TBH I'm still sore 10 months on and have been wondering whether it will stop of its own accord. It did get a lot better after I stopped BFing but it hasn't disappeared. I have asssumed that because it got better that it would disappear of its own accord.

Perhaps I should stop hiding and get myself checked out too. I'll come and let you know if they tell me anything useful.

I was interested to read about the over-healed perineum. Sounds like it could be a cause.

ticklytum · 11/05/2010 09:33

hi daffsntulips sounds like you been suffering for long time now, but i know how you feel. i had the same thing, now that someones brought it up ive had 3 sections bf all 3, if anything i think you sort of helped me. mine sounds like the same thing. dont know about the connection with above but something with the perineum sounds similar.

the only thing i can tell you, is i went to herbalalist to get my periods sorted and he said i got some sort of pressure on my womb and gave me some sticky jam like stuff to take and it seems to have helped a little and the sex has improved, dont get dry anymore either unless its a couple of days before period so the medicine must be doing something for that too.

chocolateme · 12/05/2010 20:21

daffs I had 3 lots due to not being sewn up correctly, then repair job which had the over healing, granulation then I went private to a fantastic lady gynaecologist who sorted me out! is it any wonder I had PND!!! LOL, tho not funny at the time!

Flip

Swipe left for the next trending thread