GUM/STD advice please

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Namechange for obvious reasons.
Okay so here's how it is. I did something stupid and I'm old enough to know better. I'm not proud of myself, I had unprotected sex with someone other than dh (we are separated at moment). It wasn't full and complete intercourse but there was unprotected penetration and now I am freaking out that I may have contracted something nasty.
Basically what I want to know is, where can I go to get myself checked out? I don't want to go to GP as she knows me and dh and frankly I'm ashamed of myself and highly embarrassed.

Thank you

'First it is unlikely you have got anything'
Unprotected sex with anyone is a risk, so you're doign the right thing. Call the loacl GUM clinic and make an appointment. You won't even have to give your real name if you don't want to, why not book in under Minnie Mouse
But don't take risks with your sexual health again. It takes all of a second to get a condom on

Thank you, I feel so stupid, I know better than this and have never taken a risk like it before and certainly won't again.

'First it is unlikely you have got anything.'

What a silly thing to say. I got an STI the first time I had sex (and we used a condom!) Unlucky!!

Anyway, get checked out. GUM clinics usually will find you an appointment within the nest 48 hrs, although some have a sit and wait service, or drop in evenings.

However I think you have to wait three months to be able to be checked for hiv? Think that's true.

You get a form to fill in at GUM clinic and you pick whether they can contact you by post/home phone/mobile/email/through GP. So there's no need for your GP to know.

I never said you said it was impossible! But the fact is STI's are more prevelant than you might think, and it's important to be aware of that.

I'm quite capable of being intelligent enough to understand you too, don't you worry

Yes, actually sorry OP, not the place to start getting pedantic. Hope your check up is fine. EVeryone makes mistakes.

I worked at the 'special' clinic about 15 years ago. Everything is confidential, you won't be lectured about your slack morals and you should be able to get an appointment very soon. Fingers crossed for you and stop beating yourself up.

Sorry, slack morals was supposed to be joke. I don't really think you have them.

No offence taken Kreecher, I did have slack morals that one night. Never had a one nighter in my life until now, only ever had sex with two people and dh has been the second for the last 13 years. (I realise my number is now 3)

I have phoned and have to ring for an appt after half 1, or can walk in between 1 and 3, but ahve meetings most of the afternoon so can't jsut turnup

Thank you for the reassurances though ladies. I feel a little less terrible now.

Well I went to the clinic today - what a thoroughly horrendous experience that was. The Dr who saw me didn't even look me in the eye which she was asking me questions and taking a history, was entirely unempathetic (not that I expected hugs and a cuppa), didn't speak to me all through the examination, just muttered to the nurse then when it was done, got up and walked out without a word.
The nurse, who could see I'd been crying all the way through, just said "I'll give you some privacy to get dressed" and left me there too. Then I was told to wait in the waiting room and an hour later they came out to tell me I had thrush and they'd ring me in a fornight with the other results.
I feel so, so horrid now. Cried all the way home. I know what I did was stupid and irresponsible, but I don't need to be made to feel like a piece of crap either.
I am so but mostly

IIWY, I'd make a complaint about the doctor and the nurse. I realise that they are only human and they could have been having an off day, but, it is a shitty situation to be in and they should have taken the time to be a bit sensitive.
Good luck.

Yes, I would complain as well. When I went to my local clinic, they were absolutely fab - really friendly and supportive and totally non judgemental. and really sympathetic when I cried. Hope your second appointment goes better!

I woudn't bother complaining. Life is too short. Put the whole thing behind you and move on.

But if nothing is done and these pair of charmers get a reputation of being offhand, attendance could fall. OTOH, it's unlikely that you'd be chatting to your friend and slip in a reference to your clap clinic visit.