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Uncomfy 'down below' after a dirty weekend [blush]

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FourArms · 14/04/2010 19:21

Can't be bothered to name change!

My DH is working away at the moment, so I haven't really seen him since early Feb, except for two three day breaks in the last fortnight. After the most recent trip I've got a really odd feeling down below. I'm prone to thrush, and think I've probably got a bit of that which I've treated with a pessary and some cream. However, everything inside my vagina feels really fleshy and swollen. Do you think this is just a case of over use over the weekend? Tempted to go the nurse and ask her to check I haven't had a prolapse or something! Everything feels really horrible and draggy, but I can't remember if this is just normal thrush as I haven't had a bad case for ages.

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purplepeony · 14/04/2010 19:26

Have you had a poke around there yourself? if you reach inside and you have a prolapse your cervix would below down and you might also feel bulges onthe front and back wall of the vagina.

This may be way off the mark- but any chance of a e sexual infection? can you be 100% sure that your DH behaves himself when he is away?

Sounds like you should maybe go to GP or GU clinic for a series of swabs and good all over check up.

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FourArms · 14/04/2010 19:38

Will have a further good poke later. Have had a feel whilst doing canesten. Defintely all feels bulgy, but no idea what my cervix would feel like. May see if I can get an appt with the nurse, and just say it all feels a bit strange?

DH is on a submarine, so shouldn't be an STI! Would say I'm 99.9% certain he's a good boy!

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FourArms · 14/04/2010 20:21

Have just had a good feel around. Definite bulge on the front wall. It's been there a bit before thinking back (usually after vigorous sex??), but is much bigger than normal. Googled symptoms of prolapse, and found a good website here. Seem to have a few symptoms, so will try and get an appt with the nurse in the first instance (have all male GPs in the surgery I'm with, and I'm not keen on them on a good day!) and see what she thinks.

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DidEinsteinsMum · 14/04/2010 20:30

Bad case of thrush can feel like this -especially if you were just hoping it would disappear on its own so not got round to dealing with. Overuse after a drought can tenderise the area to as the nerves will have been over stimulated and need time to settle down.

Would check for other causes but my gut feeling is that you have enjoyed yourself just a little too much has to be done sometimes though.

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FourArms · 14/04/2010 21:33

Fingers crossed that's all it is then! Did treat at first sign though - got back Sunday and used cream all day yesterday and pessary last night.

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choclab · 14/04/2010 21:39

if you have had thrush a while back may be poss your DH has given back to you over the weekend , if he has not been treated with the cream to ...

He must get some cream and use for 2 weeks 2 times a day , or when you next meet.. he will give it back to you again !!

FlookCrow · 15/04/2010 16:50

Since when was thrush sexually transmitted?!

choclab · 15/04/2010 16:59

men can get it to on there bits , my DH has had before , itchy etc .. thats why they need the cream , or will just pass back to each other .

FlookCrow · 15/04/2010 17:05

Men can get it, and women can get it, but it is not sexually transmitted. You cannot pass it from one partner to another.

choclab · 15/04/2010 17:11

well i was told can pass to each other , so need to use both need to use cream .
maybe i was told wrong

TheProvincialLady · 15/04/2010 17:15

Yes you can pass it between you. Men often don't have symptoms (the lucky buggers). If it is thrush then it would not be a bad idea to use condoms for a bit and for DH to treat himself.

purplepeony · 15/04/2010 18:32

Flookcrow- didn't you know that thrush is transitted sexually?
It is not an STI but if one partner the other can get it and men especially can be carriers but symptom free.

Unless you both treat yourselves then you will pass back and forth- and same goes if you are not in a monogamous relationship.

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FourArms · 15/04/2010 18:48

DH has always treated in the past if I've had it since we don't bother with condoms much. I seem to get it at the drop of a hat - too much sex, period, antibiotics, inappropriate underwear!

GP says I've got a mild prolapse from the back but also a lot of swelling at the front which may go down once the thrush has gone. Will have to reassess in a week. Wasn't as scary as I'd thought, much easier than a smear.

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FlookCrow · 15/04/2010 20:41

Thrush is a Ph imbalance in the vagina. You cannot "catch" it from sex, although sex may irritate the vagina and cause thrush to occur. Your partner will not "catch" it from you and you cannot "pass it backwards and forwards".

www.std.co.uk/thrush.html

(link chosen at random from one amongst many)

If you have thrush, it is best to avoid sex as it's irritating for the vaginal wall. It is certainly not an STD, and it's scary that I'm reading it as such.

purplepeony · 15/04/2010 22:47

sorry but you are incorrect.
From the book Sexually Transmitted Diseases published by Need2Know:

www.amazon.co.uk/Sexually-Transmitted-Infections-Essential-Guide/dp/1861440510/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s= books&qid=1271368024&sr=8-2-spell

"Thrush is a common yeast infection mainly associated with women though men can be infected and retransmit it back to their partner each time they have sex".

Okay it is not an STI but it can and is passed back and foth during sex .

you seem a bit defensive- are you at risk?

ThatVikRinA22 · 15/04/2010 22:52

you can definitely pass thrush on to your partner and vice versa. i thought this was common knowledge tbh, but i had suffered with it loads while on the pill, my gp always routinely told me to treat him and me to prevent it being passed back and forth. men can get it and have no symptoms what so ever.

purplepeony · 15/04/2010 22:52

p.s.The link you posted does not say it cannot be re-transmitted.
Thrush is a yeast/fungal infection- it can and is caught by contact during sex. It can be caught in the same way as athletes foot is caught- by contact with yeast/fungal spores of another person.

purplepeony · 15/04/2010 22:58

Just to make sure you do not misunderstand my post- yes, thrush is caused by an imbalance of acids which allow the fungi to take hold. In other words, when the conditions are right the fungi grows, as it thrives in moist, warm, alkali conditions. Once thrush is there then it can be passed from a woman to a man and vice versa.

Any dr will tell you that if you treat yourself your partner should use something like Canestan cream. men can have swabs of their penis to find the infection- they may never have any symptoms.

purplepeony · 15/04/2010 23:00

www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Thrush-men/Pages/Diagnosis.aspx
This should clear up any confusion

FlookCrow · 15/04/2010 23:00

To the contrary, purplepeony, I was terrified that you were at risk!! And was being fed a pack of lies by your SO, I apologise.

I still stand by my statement, it is not an infection but an imbalance in yeast levels. I have just rung my friend who is an STD counsellor at her local school and she agrees with me - that it cannot be transmitted - the same way dandruff cannot be transmitted because it is an imbalance in your body.

Definitely one to read up on, it'll give me something to do later on tonight ;)

purplepeony · 15/04/2010 23:05

sorry but is IS an infection with candida albi...

you seem to be confusing the climate it thrives in- alkaline vaginal PH- with the actual infection itself.

It is caused by an overgrowth of the fungal bacteria which are usually kept at bay in an acid vagina.

Do you object to athletes foot being called an infection- it's the same principle.

purplepeony · 15/04/2010 23:07

your friend needs to re-inform herself. frightening to think that the NHS website gives information which she a) doesn't know and b) she misinforms other people.

FlookCrow · 15/04/2010 23:40

Cool, I'll pass on that information to her.

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