a little advice please ... daughter talk ...

[choclab]

My DD is almost 10 , thought id better raise the subject of "changing bodies " (gently )....

we are very close and do talk a lot so as we set off for our dog walk the heavens opened and we had to wait in the car for rain to clear , DD was talking about her forthcoming 10th Birthday , so i gently approched the topic ... as you are getting a bigger girl you may notice your body changing a little .....

she then said i dont want to grow up ..but asked what changes ? i then said well your breasts may start to grow a little ....and with that she burst into tears and cried her eyes out ... saying how she doesnt want to grow up , wants to stay with me forever things like that ..

I was so i didnt carry on .... we hugged and calmed her down ....now i wish i hadnt mentioned it at all she calmed down and i told her if she ever wanted to talk about anything i was there for her ....
shes fine now .

but now dont know weather i should say anything in a few months or just leave it ?

has anyone els had similar reaction from there DD ?

Oh the poor girl. It's so overwhelming. Just leave it, let her come to you. She knows she can.

I remember starting my periods and I was so prepared for them, knew they were coming, all the signs were there. I sobbed and sobbed and sobbed. The sheer inevitability of growing up was horrible. My Mum gave me a day off school and wrapped me in blankets, read to me, watched tv etc. Lovely. It was the perfect way to show me that the important things never change. That's something you can demonstrate daily.

Or you could do what my Dad. He sat me down in all seriousness and said 'there are lots of nice men out there, don't feel you have to bonk them all, eh?'

thanks , we are very close , im sure she knows im here ...i just didnt want her to have worries when things do start to change ..
i think i will ask school after break to see when they do the "talk" that way i will know if she is upset and down.