DH wants me to go to the GP and Im so afraid

[Freyfreysmum]

... of being branded and dismissed as a typical woman.

Since having dd1 two and a half years ago (and then dd2 last oct), I have become extremely up and down in my moods. I also cannot control my anger and when its PMT week it is so bad, and DH and I are drifting apart and fast.

I have lots of friends, an outgoing personality, and apart from my impatience I know people see me as popular, happy, and all in all quite a good person. I am however seriously up when I am up, and really down when I am down.

However behind closed doors, my husband has to put up with me Always getting angry at him, and I just feel so cross inside.

Is there anything a GP can do or say, or am I going to look like a silly lady.
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Are you on the pill? This can often make PMS symptoms a little easier on the rest of the household.

Do go and see your GP, it's just a hormone imbalance, it's nothing to be embarassed about, they see this alot.

Thanks - Ive purposely not gone back on the pill this time round purely because a) erm there is no physical relaionship now as things are so bad and b) it makes me so much worse. I am so sad about this because I know Im not a bad person, and dont act like I want to, if all this makes sense.

Are you cross inside all the time or just with the PMS?

I used to get dreadful PMS. Had huge uncontrollable outbursts. In midst of one at a cocktail function in a 5 star hotel in Vietnam once I told a complete stranger to F* off and ran out onto a main road. That particular episode scared me as I was SO out of control. I ended up going to an acupuncturist for a few sessions. It made a HUGE difference. Really. The next period was particularly painful with cramps but after that I was fine. No noticeable PMS beyond being a bit grumpy but NOTHING compared to what I had been like.

According to this your GP should not dismiss you at all.

I would suggest that before you get to your GP you should keep a symptom diary. Record what you ate and drank and what you were doing that day... see if anything obvious hits you. For example, in some people PMS mood swings are related to excess insulin production... so check how much sugar & starchy foods you're eating. Related to that, one of the early warning signs of diabetes can be mood swings.... do you have any of the other symptoms? Mild anaemia can cause irritability and menstruation obviously knocks iron stores.

And there's also the possibility that it has nothing to do with hormones, nutrition or insulin etc. There are psychological problems that are characterised by wildly varying moods

But hey.... that's why we have doctors and the good old NHS to help us sort it all out and find an appropriate treatment. Good luck

I was just thinking about this earlier.

Since I have had DS my PMT seems to be much worse. The week leading up to my period means that no one can do anything right and I will get seriously pissed off for nothing and strop about a lot. My DH has mentioned it and I feel bad for him.

I was talking to my doc about it as we were discussing other things anyway and she suggested I could go back on fluoxetine which is what I was on for PND. She said many women stay on it as it helps their PMT a lot. I haven't gone back on it but I may consider it in the future as I have reached that week again and yet again I am really moody and I feel bad for those who I take it out on.