After 7 years of me wishing dp wouldnt drink he has come way to my way of thinking. He had a massive bender the weekend and ended up having suicidal thoughts crying at his mums front door.I kicked him out 8 weeks ago after too much hurt and upset caused by him and his drinking. His father, uncles and brother are all alcoholics too (found this out after I had fallen in love)He moved in with a friend and becaue he could he drank more and more, We have 2 children ages 5 and 9. Youngest is obvlivious, not sure about the eldest tho he doesnt say much. Do I tell them the truth about Daddies drinking? He is now living at hi mums to 'get better'. Hi parents went thru the same and his dad is a recovering alcoholic but found the renewal church and this is his solice. They are trying to get dp into the church too as they believe he cant do it on his own.If im honest this church isnt my thing - too in your face but as ive said to dp if it helps you go for it. I know its early days as he only decided Sunday and he has said this before but somethings different this time. He would never move into his moms if he didnt need to believe me. So my questions are as follow - I have said to him he needs to sort himself out before he comes home, what does this mean?Am I right to say that? - I know its selfish but I too like an occasional drink , maybe twice a month. Do I have to give this up? Should I? - What about family functions and get togethers with friends? We are only in our early thirties and everyone drinks around us. Shame that partner cannot social drink and he accepts that now.- I have said to him that I dont know if I will love the person he becomes, after all its not the man I met, I might not like him.- I will miss our nights out together, we used to have a drink and such a giggle, them days are gone. Im ssooooooo confused this is grown up stuff and I cant deal with it. Please help me???