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Can't stop worrying even with No 2

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Melly · 21/06/2003 22:15

Hello. Had a really bad day today. Poor Ds is just 10 weeks, he had first set of jabs on Wednesday and has been poorly since. I think he has caught a nasty cold from dd (who is nearly 2) and the poor lamb is really suffering. I took him to see GP yesterday who listened to his chest, said his chest was ok but she could hear a heart murmur Having given me this information she then said it could be related to his cold and if I get him checked out in a week or so it might well have disappeared? Being a complete worry guts this has completely freaked me out, even though I know it's probably nothing too much to worry about. Today, longest day, is the anniversary of when my lovely mum died 11 years ago and poor old ds was even more poorly today and I ended up taking him to local Casualty dept. to get him checked over again, because his breathing was rapid and he was so miserable. Doctor at Casualty was ok, but I didn't feel he was particularly thorough, didn't even take ds's temperature, just said that chest sounded ok and put him in a steamy bathroom. I don't regret taking him but dh hinted that I may have gone a bit over the top. I thought with ds being child no.2 I would be so much more laid back but I'm not. It's so hard when they're tiny because you can't even give them calpol or Karvol. Ds is in GF routine and thankfully, despite snoozing on and off most of the afternoon he settled not too bad at 7.15 pm.
Sorry, just wanted to get this off my chest, I'm feeling very tearful and overwhelmed with the responsibility of looking after two children under 2 yrs.

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whymummy · 21/06/2003 22:29

hi melly youre doing really well and its only natural to worry i was terrible when mine were babies is the not knowing whats wrong with them as they cant tell you,my dd also had a murmur but it disapear when she was 4 months old,you`re tired and need a break, when the baby is better try and get someone to look after them so you can have a rest,good luck and lol

WideWebWitch · 21/06/2003 22:33

Melly, I'm not surprised you're feeling overwhelmed and tearful - today was bound to be a hard day, even without a sick child, your GP bandying around expressions like 'heart murmur' and another 2 yo to look after. I'm sorry about your mum. It's understandable to worry if your ds is only 10 weeks, they seem so fragile at that age don't they? No advice, since I would love to be laid back with no 2 but suspect I won't either but I'm sure you're not abnormal and at least you went and got him checked today and he was OK. I think you should trust your instincts on these things and so better to go and be reassured than not go and worry more or miss something. And today was bound to be worse than normal. I really hope tomorrow is better but if it isn't do post again and let us know and I'm sure you'll get some good constructive advice.

Demented · 22/06/2003 09:33

Melly it is very understandable that you are feeling fragile just now anyway without everything else that is going on. I just wanted to say that I found with no 2 that to a certain extent I worry more as I have more experience and information second time round, I don't worry about the little things anymore (for example my DS2 won't wear socks, something I would have worried about if it had been DS1) but the big things like jags etc have me a nervous wreck. Hope things are a bit better today.

Melly · 22/06/2003 19:33

Thanks, Whymummy, WWW & Demented, you have reassured me that I'm not a completely paranoid fool, thanks for your support. Ds is much, much better today, his temperature seems to be back to normal and seems pretty much back to his usual self, lots of smiles and cooing Teatime & bathtime were great today, both sprogs behaved beautifully and both settled in bed by 7 pm.....now relaxing with G&T before lovely roast dinner cooked by dh

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Angiel · 22/06/2003 19:38

Glad you and your son are feeling better today. It is hard work looking after little ones, I had 3 under 4. Make sure you put your feet up tonight and enjoy your roast.

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