diabetic husband getting totally trashed and passing out on floor at 5 am

[MrsKarpet]

Title of thread says it all really. Said he was just going out for a couple (hmmm heard that one before), I heard him come in at 5 as I was up with 5 month old and assumed he fell asleep on sofa as per... came downstairs at 6 found him on floor by front door. I am so worried about him, he has only been taking insulin for a month now - missed taking it last night as he was out - and he knows he just can't drink like all his mates do but he forgets/doesn't care after the first few.

He is a lovely husband, this is the only thing we fall out over in a big way and I am so so worried. He won't talk honestly to Dr about his drinking - who does? - but this is serious, and am I unreasonable to think maybe his friends should keep a better eye on him?? Not much I can do stuck in house with 2 DC's with no idea where he is in middle of night.

We will talk when he wakes up, god knows when, but I will just be repeating myself. Anyone have any ideas or advice or experience with similar? We both have the same Dr can I ask her or is it all confidential? How do I get him some help if he won't ask for it??

Sad MrsKarpet

my dh and me have the same doc ,but they wont disguss whith you ,best thing to do is make an app and go in whith him if you can

Hi MrsK - really feel for you - do you think your husband is acting like this because he is in denial over using insulin? Has he just been diagnosed with type 1 or has he progressed on to insulin as a type 2 diabetic? Was he hypo this morning? I'm guessing that if he forgot his insulin he was more likely to be high. Do you understand his diabetes? Sorry for all the questions just trying to think what might help. I'm type 1 and I handled my diagnosis quite responsibly but then I had plenty of silly stuff before diagnosis. Maybe his friend doesn't understand how serious it is on insulin. Lots of people don't really understand the full implications. Does your DH carry hypo food with him e.g glucose tablets? Does he have glucagon from the Dr for hypo treatment?

My hospital runs the DAFNE course for type 1 and partners are invited to attend the sessions on hypo awareness. I would personally speak to your GP even if it is to get advice about what you can do if he is hypo/hyper. I have shown DH how to inject me and test my blood - testing his blood for him would I think be really useful. If you can talk to him about it and help him deal with managing his condition I am sure it would help.

Silly silly man. I know that he has only recently started to use insulin, but did he have any sort of literature given to him. Is he aware that he can go blind, suffer limb amputations amongst many other side effects of badly/poory controlled diabetes.
I think he should be making an appointment at the diabetes clinic and getting some info.
Good luck.
Bloody men, I really doubt a woman would get herself into a situation like that.

Is he still asleep? Could you wake him up and get him to test and either eat or take insulin depending on result?

Just to say he finally got up as I finished getting little ones into bed. Hey ho he's still alive and I'm shattered. Thanks for the replies everyone. I realised a while back I need to decide what to do about his drinking but think I thought I could live with it. It's the extra level of worry I have now with the diabetes that's pushing me over the edge. Seems like it's the alcohol problem needs sorting and I can't do it for him...