Husband getting the snip, how do you make that huge descision?

[Disenchanted3]

I feel no urges to have a fourth child, I did for a while after my third but now she is one and things have settled down I don't have that broodiness I have suffered after all my kids, a broodiness that after them never died down until I ws pregnant again so this is new for me!

We have one in school full time, one in playgroup 5 mornings and the wee one at home.

I've lost 10lbs in the last month, have more to go but its the first time since having them that I've had the motivation to loose weight.

But contraception is a real problem for me, it always has been. And I'm fed up of it all.

The best and simplist option is for DH to get the snip, he has expressed that he would happily do this. He thinks 3 is enough, as do I.

But I can't let go of the 'what ifs'.

What if I want another child in the future.

Can I really do something that will take my ability to have more children away??

I really can't see myself asking DH to book that appointment but I am fed up with being ill all the time and worrying about pregnancy!

Well, for us it was a no brainer. We thought we only wanted one after having DD. Then found I was pregnant again with DS and I wouldn't have missed having him for the world. BUT, we very definitely didn't want another, I was sick of being on contraception and we felt that vasectomy was the best option.

Is there no other contraception you can try, particularly if your not sure about not having another? I was going to have the mirena coil, which I hear is very good.

Dp had the snip 2 weeks ago. I did feel a bit sad about it as now that's it but I just imagined if I did get pregnant again and how I would feel/what I would do. That solved it for me.I was definate then that we definately have enough, as we already have 5 it was the best thing for us.

Hope you come to the right decision for you

also no brainer, dont want any more kids, now or ever.

wasn't sad or nostalgic about it at alla

Hmmm, maybe its not right for us then if I can't say 'no brainer' about it then? I don't want anymore kids now, if fact I would be distraught if I found out I was pregnant BUT I can't say never for sure.

Is it possible to have it reconnected? Then you'd never have to say never, so to speak.

Disenchanted - how old are you? It was an easy decision for me and dh (well, me anyway!) as we were both in our early 40s with 3 kids. I certainly wasn't going to have any more at my age (No. 3 was a bit of a surprise!), wasn't happy with any of my contraception options and, if dh ran off with a bimbo he wouldn't be able to afford to have more kids as he would still be paying for our 3.

But it's perhaps less of an easy decision if you're a lot younger than that.

Easy desicion for me and dh, we are both 40 this year and have two DSs which is just perfect for us. I don't want to use contraception anymore (ivedone my bit!) and neither of us want more children. The gp asked me if one or both of your children should die would you want to replace them, no was my answer, they are not replacable!!

If you are not 100% then don't do it.