Need to talk to someone

[shellmc]

Hi there,

Im 24 and have a gorgeous 8 month old baby boy, i am really happy and love him to bits.

Just recently i have been feeling low and crying for nothing, feeling realy tired and moody and i dont know why,................well the tiredness is just part ov parenthood i know.

I am worrying over going back to work and leaving my LO My mam and MIL are sharing the care which is good. But i just want to be with him and cant imagine not being there to check he is ok and give him his feeds ect.

Im going on a bit but whether this worrying is causing the way im feeling i dont know ???
I have started having headaches which last a few hours at a time and come and go and feel sickly at times 2. Like i say i am generally very happy and me and hubby are very strong 2gether.

Just wanted to share it with someone Sorry xxx

Oh poor you. It is so hard imagining leaving your little one with someone else to care for them while you work. It is totally natural to feel worried and stressed and sad at the thought. It is hard at first - going back to work - but it does get easier - especially if your baby is with someone you really trust. I cried on the way to work every day when my DD went to nursery and I went back to work ... but really she loved it there and they cared for her soooo well. And anyone worth their salt will let you phone as often as you like to check up on her so you know she is okay.

If you are feeling low about this maybe you should have a chat with your health visitor and get them to talk to you about how you feel. They won't think you are bothering them and will have some good advice on coping and also they'll be able to say if this is something that means you need more than a shoulder to cry on.

Thanks bonzodoodah,
I know he will be cared for and i have been leaving DS with my mam for short periods of time just to get him used to it, he seems to be fine its just me.

I think i will talk to healthvisitor and see what she says.

Good idea - you getting away a bit - and you can see ... he's okay when you are not there (and glad when you come back still).

I hope you have a good chat with the health visitor and they help.

One other thing to consider - do you have lots of holidays left after being on Mat leave? Maybe you can do what I did and phase in your going back to work? I went back 2 days a week for a few weeks, then 3 days a week and then 4 , then 5 ... so both I and my DD got used to being at nursery/ apart. It seemed to work and as I say she loved it at the nursery and they were always sending home photos of her happy and smiling and playing. Your mum and MIL should be able to do the same for you too.