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Pain during orgasm - Chlamydia or Pregnancy?

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cursedlaptop · 24/01/2010 20:41

I am new to this so please bear with me as this is embarrassing and long

I have been seeing dp for a few months now but have known him for years. He has always expressed an interest in me but I have always refused him since he has a reputation as a player - albeit a very nice and honest one!

Anyway... he weakened my resolve and we started dating but took it really slowly and didn't get intimate right away as I was still nervous about being just another notch on his bedpost despite his assurances.

He has 6 monthly STI check up's since he is a single bloke who plays the field and to his horror right at the beginning of our relationship a routine check up came back positive for chlamydia. He rang me immediately and apologised and said he would understand if I never wanted to see him again as he was very embarrassed and horrified by it.

He knew exactly who he got it off since he does not go in for one night stands or picking girls up in bars etc. Instead he had a couple of friends - one being an ex girlfriend where they both decided they weren't couple material but still liked each other as friends - and they were I suppose friends with benefits, an arrangement which suited all parties fine.

I told him not to worry about it, he had told me about these girls before we started seeing each other as he is actually a very honest bloke and I said it was okay and that these things happen. He said it was a lesson learned and he would not put himself in that position again and that was the end of that... or so we thought!

We were careful not to get up to anything until he took his course of antibiotics and then we used condoms just to be safe. More so because I am not on the pill or any other contraceptive and this early on it would not be wise to be 'caught out'.

I used to have an inplant but it was causing all sorts of problems so I had it removed and kept a diary of my menstrual cycle thereafter as I was warned that it could be a bit up and down. It is hard to predict when I will get a period as it has been scattered so far:
33 days, 36 days, 33 days, 26 days, 38 days, 37 days, 37 days, 35 days and the last one was 27 days which was Christmas Eve.

By my reckoning I should be having a period anywhere between the 21st and the 31st of January - so far nothing.

On New Years Eve (and day!!) we got a bit carried away and ended up having sex a couple of times without using a condom. I thought we would be perfectly safe as I just finished my period 2 days before so there was no chance of me ovulating any time soon.

On Sunday evening he started to get an uncomfortable feeling in his testicles as if he had been wearing pants that were too tight and he recognised the signs so went to the doctor and two days later he was told that he had tested positive for Chlamydia again!

His doctor things that he has probably just been unlucky in that the single dose antibiotics did not clear it up properly and he still had it when we started sleeping together. (Yes I am aware that there will be questions over whether or not he has been faithful but that is another topic for another day....please!!)

He now has a new dose of antibiotics - 2 pills every day - and he has to get tested again once he has finished these to make sure it has cleared up this time. He has been told no sex at all - not even with a condom - until he receives an all clear test.

Obviously this means that I have had to go for a test too. My results are due back Monday afternoon/Tuesday morning.

Since Monday I have been experiencing a strange pain whenever I orgasm - obviously masturbation since he is out of action - and I have tested it a couple of times just to see what would happen and each time there is a sharp but not bad pain on the right hand side of my vagina - labia majora or mound kind of along a straight line from my clitoris. It doesn't stop my orgasm but at the point the pain hits the orgasm dulls right down to the point that it was hardly worth bothering with.

So... is this likely to be a sign that I do have Chlamydia, could it be a sign that my period is due and my body is just playing up or could I possibly be pregnant?

I have taken a pregnancy test which was negative but this was on the 21t and as I have no idea when my period is actually due I can't really say whether that was too early or not!

I have been getting strange achey/crampy/sharp pains really low down in stomach - almost above my pubic line and I assumed this meant that my period was on its way. I have also been really horny this week which again I assumed meant that my period was due.

I am probably just thinking of worse case scenarios while I wait for my test results tomorrow but if anyone has any thoughts then they are most welcome.

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OnlyWantsOneFartleBerry · 24/01/2010 21:16

wow.... i read all that

amazed at myself

firstly, poor you

secondly, calm down - you get your results tomorrow.

morningpaper · 24/01/2010 21:20

well it could be either frankly, or neither

Sex straight after your period is NOT sensible - before is not so bad but straight AFTER is asking for trouble - if your period lasts for five days, sperm can live in your body for UP TO 7 days - this gives you a window of up to Day 12 for conception to occur which is obviously fairly central dates

However, chlamydia can cause this sort of pain. So it could be either?

Which is worse/better?

Stay calm and try not to panic

bruxeur · 24/01/2010 21:21

Could be both, of course.

OnlyWantsOneFartleBerry · 24/01/2010 21:21

is there any way you could of had clamydia, and given it to him at new years?

I was under the impression that when you text + for some thing, and you are given treatment, you are retested to make sure anti biotics worked.

morningpaper · 24/01/2010 21:25

Why did you not get tested originally? (am I reading it right?)

OnlyWantsOneFartleBerry · 24/01/2010 21:26

dont think they'd slept together yet?

morningpaper · 24/01/2010 21:26

ah I see

morningpaper · 24/01/2010 21:28

He said it was a lesson learned and he would not put himself in that position again

STIs are really common

It is not just foolish idiots that get them

He IS putting himself "in that position" by sleeping with you

cursedlaptop · 24/01/2010 21:36

He wasn't tested after he finished his first course of anti biotics but I don't know if that is unusual or he should have been or what... I just know that he has been told that he has to be tested after this course.

The pills he is on now are more aggressive apparently with side effects such as making your head swell which he is not looking forward to... not that I found that bit amusing!

I did not give the chlamydia to him. I had a routine smear in October and my area do tests for STI's at the same time and I was clear then. I had not slept with anyone other than him from when we started sleeping together in November. His positive test came back in November from his routine 6 monthly check up but of course we don't know at what point in that 6 month window he got it only that he apparently still had it after all.

I am sort of resigned to the fact that I have chamlydia to be honest. If his was so virilent that it never went away with the first round of antibiotics what are the chances of me not getting it!! I will just have to take my pills and see what happens but not sure if my doctor will put me straight onto the strong 2 dose course or start with the single dose course and retest.

DP is very apologetic and feels really bad for it but as for the other issue... he would rather it was just chlamydia!! When he told me on the phone I said well as long as that is all you have infected me with... more thinking it could have been worse and at least this is treatable... he started spluttering about how stupid he was for not wearing a condom with me not being on the pill as he knows I would not want to be a single mother to two (I am divorced with a child already). So I can see immediately which way he is thinking there!!

He has a DS from a previous marriage and said he didn't want any more children but never bothered with the snip as he worried that it would make him more lax about contraception in the future...

Yes I did point out the irony to that statement!! So he is hoping for the lurgy and I am just hoping to know one way or another and tying myself up in knots in the process!

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cursedlaptop · 24/01/2010 22:04

wasn't tested because we had not slept together at that point and we knew that I was free of STI's because of my test when I had my smear so as far as we were concerned I was okay and his antibiotics had cleared his up so we didn't think he was putting himself in a stupid position.

Obviously in hindsight he should have been retested before we slept together just to make absolute certainty that it was gone.

When he said he would not put himself in that position again he had meant that he would use protection and obviously that he would be a one woman man from now on... though he failed miserably at the protection thing at new year! But I have to take some of the blame too.

He had thought by just confining his bed mates to a couple of friends and not sleeping with complete strangers that he would be safer than someone who constantly bed hops but as has now been pointed out to him he doesn't know who else they were sleeping with which is how he got into this predicament as well.

He has had to contact the two girls too and tell them to get retested just incase... The theory being that if his did not go away then theirs might not either so he has had a lot of awkward conversations recently!

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OnlyWantsOne · 25/01/2010 20:27

well how did you get on? x

morningpaper · 25/01/2010 20:29

yes do tell

cursedlaptop · 30/01/2010 12:37

I have been demented all week. My results weren't in on Monday, or Tuesday or Wednesday nor Thursday morning by which time I was practically hysterical. The receptionist said she could not understand it and I had to take in a new urine sample!!

Later that afternoon she rang me to say the results were just in and it was negative for chlamydia but I had to speak to the doctor before sugery on Friday morning as there was more to my results and they didn't preclude other conditions! She would not tell me more and i was beside myself all night! Awake from 1.40am worrying and considering the possibilities!

I rang the doctor on Friday morning and it was nothing!!! They only tested for Chlamydia so the stuff the receptionist was reading out was the legal jargon which said they could not comment on any other condition since I had not been tested for anything else! The only thing the doctor wanted to say to me was that, because my boyfriend had a definite positive result I could choose to be retested in a couple of weeks just in case of a false negative. Apparently it is very rare but can happen or I could choose to be treated anyway just in case but it was my choice!

aarggh... I could have throttled that receptionist! Anyway, I got the pills but I have not started taking them yet as my period still hasn't arrived.

I keep getting a hot feeling in my stomach, odd twinges and pains, I am so tired but either cannot sleep or cannot stay asleep and I swear I am peeing more today!

I took a test this morning and it was negative so not sure if it is all in my head and I am just stressed which is not helping my period arrive or if there is a chance I am pregnant but it is too early to show up on the test.

The last time I was pregnant it was 7 weeks before it tested positive and this would only be 4 weeks if it was that.

What do you think?

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EcoMouse · 30/01/2010 13:01

I think you should both go for a full STI screen at your local GUM clinic. All tests, all orifices - the only way to be sure!

Chlamydia should be retested after anti-b's.

There could be a number of reasons why your bleeds have gone awol, maybe make a GP appointment if they are usually regular?

You do need to find out if you are pregnant before taking the anti-b's you've been given but if all tests prove to be clear, you'll be able to avoid this entirely. However, if you do test + for chlamydia and are pregnant, it is very important for it to be treated prior to birth.

foxinsocks · 30/01/2010 13:09

I often get this pain and have no STIs. It is possible that that pain just starts happening. I did a thread on here at one stage and even went to the gynae because, to be quite frank, it was really starting to piss me off .

I get painful periods and my uterus was just contracting at times it shouldn't (so just as I was about to experience something good , it would cramp and sort of get stuck).

Anyway, i can take anti cramp pills but the main thing was sorting out my periods and hormones which then sorted out this pain.

As the last poster said, get a full check done, have a smear and try and sort out your pattern and then pain may well sort itself out on its own.

cursedlaptop · 30/01/2010 13:19

I had a full smear and full STI check done in October and it was all clear. Boyfriend had a full STI check done in November and the only thing he had was Chlamydia which is why that was the only thing I was tested for - since I had not been with anyone else between my check and him.

He has finished his 2nd course of antibiotics and he will be getting retested but his doctor said he can't be tested again for 5 weeks because of the risk of false positive results. That was apparently why he was not tested after his first lot of pills. He was not scheduled to be tested again until the middle of January but his symptoms beat him to it.

My periods are only twitchy because of me having the implant in and then out again. I cannot take the pill as I am allergic to all kinds - they make my body go mad and the last time I tried it took about 5 years to sort itself out. They tried me on the implant because they thought that might be better but it wasn't so my doctor said I should stay away from all contraception with hormones to be on the safe side. The implant came out December 2008 so I am keeping a diary of my periods to see when they stabilise.

They have never gone longer than 38 days but I do wonder if the stress of this last week is just working against me and the symptoms are just that my period is on its way and to calm down!!

On the plus side my boyfriend said if I was pregnant it would not be the end of the world and he would stand by me no matter what I wanted to do and he would not insist that I do anything I didn't want to or felt was wrong... quite a turn around from a bloke who said no way to kids!

Of course now that he has said that my period will arrive tomorrow with friends!!

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rabbitstew · 30/01/2010 21:21

My approach is always better safe than sorry, and at the slightest hint of anything whatsoever having been passed on to me, I would want to be tested for everything that could be tested for. (And did you know that you can harbour some STIs in the back of your throat, so that they can be passed on through oral sex even if you test clear down below???).

cursedlaptop · 31/01/2010 15:33

Thanks for the replies. I guess I should organise another trip to the doctors. If I am honest I did not want to think about the possibilities of anything else. Been stressed enough thinking and worrying about whether or not I had chlamydia as it was!

I suppose there is a real chance that all twinges and so on was just as a result of me convincing myself I had something but you are all right... better to be safe than sorry.

Today is the last day that my period could have come before it would be aboslutely and officially late. Usually it is there when I wake up on a morning but so far nothing.

I am sure that as soon as I have convinced myself that I could be pregnant (miracle conception ) then it will arrive.

As soon as I work myself up to taking a test tomorrow morning it will be there to great me like an unwanted visitor!!!

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purplepeony · 01/02/2010 09:39

As others have said, it is JUST possible you could be PG.

It is possible to have period type pains but no flow when you are PG- I had that with both my PGs.

I doubt if the pains you have are chlamydia- pelvic pain associated with chalmydia is when things have progressed and the infection is in yout uterus and tubes.

There is no point speculating- just do the test!

cursedlaptop · 01/02/2010 18:46

I took another test this morning and it was negative but still no period as yet so not sure what to think about it.

The last time I was pregnant I was 7 weeks before it showed up as a positive test, previous ones were negative til then so not sure if I just have to wait it out a few more weeks - if I was pregnant now then I would be about 4 or 5 weeks pregnant - or if it is a case of 'stop stressing and it will come'

I am at the stage where every little thing is being put together in the proverbial 2 plus 2 equals 5 scenario!

Tired all the time and happy to be in bed by 9 at the latest, bit achey in my lower back and slight twinges or almost cramps in my stomach as well as the hot feeling in my stomach and unable to sleep/stay asleep that I have already mentioned.

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purplepeony · 01/02/2010 20:53

The tiredness could be just bad PMT.

PG tests should be pretty accurate- if I was you I'd be re-testing in another few days/week. Or- you could see your GP as other signs can be picked up- via an internal.

cursedlaptop · 01/02/2010 21:26

Thanks purple... I do think I have to stop stressing myself out as that is probably the biggest factor here!

I will try to stop thinking about it for a few days and see what happens. If there is no sign of my period by next Monday and tests are still negative then I will speak to my doctor.

thanks again x

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Peepingtom1 · 09/06/2018 07:53

Ok this was 8 years ago so you must have all of the answers by now. Is the pain anything to worry about? I had antibiotics for chlamydia about 5 years ago but i've been terribly cautious since, to the point of not bothering to have a sex life at all. But i'm feeling a weird sensation inside at the front of my pelvic area when I climax. I can't really say it's painful or maybe it is but it's not unpleasant. It's hard to define when you're ignorant about your own anatomy. I'm half minded to say the sensation is in connection with the urethral sponge.
Does any of this sound familiar?

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