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Would this make you think?

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CymbidiumHybrid · 16/01/2010 20:56

Silly question here, please be honest.

I will answer questions where I can but don't want to give out many details as I think someone on mn knows me in rl.

If your dh and closest friend were concerned about the amount of alcohol you drunk, would it make you sit up, take stock and have a word with yourself?

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foxinsocks · 16/01/2010 21:01

yes

unless I thought they had some sort of ulterior motive

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CymbidiumHybrid · 16/01/2010 21:02

No ulterior motive whatsoever.

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Dominique07 · 16/01/2010 21:03

Yes... When do you normally have a drink? If you wanted to refrain from drinking for 1 month, could you?

I know I may not be an 'average' drinker, (and I don't like wine or beer) but I only buy my (favourite) drink as a treat for myself. And thats only once every couple of months, then the bottle lasts a few weeks.
I tend to have a drink on the weekend, but thats it, one drink.
If I'm going out to a pub, then its very different, but then thats only once every 4 or 5 months at the mo.

ConnorTraceptive · 16/01/2010 21:04

Yes - how much do you drink?

foxinsocks · 16/01/2010 21:04

well then brush off your pride a bit

and go and have a word with yourself

are you worried?

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CymbidiumHybrid · 16/01/2010 21:05

I could quite easily not drink for a month.

I can drink and if I had the money, could drink 3 bottles of red wine a night.

Last night I had 3 bottles of white wine and got up at 6am.

If I go to the pub I can drink 10+ pints then a bottle of wine when I get home.

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Aubergines · 16/01/2010 21:06

Of course it would. My best mate and my DH are the two people who care for me most in the world. If they both felt worried enough to raise my drinking with me then I would take it v seriously.

foxinsocks · 16/01/2010 21:09

that's a lot to drink in one go

when you start waking up the next day with no ill effects, that's when you really should worry.

I would haul yourself off to the GP if you can. Go and get your liver tested and see how it's coping.

And take your dh and best friend out for a meal and thank them for being so honest.

Surely you can see what you drink is far too much in one night?

Aubergines · 16/01/2010 21:09

Did they both stick to talking about the amount or did either of them talk about the affect?

3 bottles is a huge amount to drink in one night. Even if it's not making you unpleasant company it will be mking you physically ill and potentially putting others at risk. Do you drive in the mornings after a heavy session?

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CymbidiumHybrid · 16/01/2010 21:09

I recently had a liver test and everything is fine, that was due to me being ill and they tested everything.

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CymbidiumHybrid · 16/01/2010 21:10

No I don't drive, I walk everywhere.

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Aubergines · 16/01/2010 21:10

Also think about why you drink that much. Why do you want to drink three bottles a night?

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CymbidiumHybrid · 16/01/2010 21:10

Affect has not been mentioned, but, they have both voiced concern about the amount.

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CMOTdibbler · 16/01/2010 21:11

Yes, and you are drinking an awful lot there. It's really not good for your health to binge drink like that

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CymbidiumHybrid · 16/01/2010 21:11

Most of it is due to bereavement, before it happened I was 3 bottles of wine a week.

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Aubergines · 16/01/2010 21:17

If a bereavement is the root of this then I would definitly go and ask for help from the GP or a counsellor. If you are drinking to forget or ease pain then thats something you need help with. Please help yourself avoid a loss destroy your health and family life.

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CymbidiumHybrid · 16/01/2010 21:18

i've had counselling, and, whilst having it, stopped drinking completely. Now that has finished, it's started again.

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Aubergines · 16/01/2010 21:18

How long ago was the bereavement?

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CymbidiumHybrid · 16/01/2010 21:39

4 very very long months - suicide.

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Ilovechristmas · 17/01/2010 00:26

Hi Cymbidiumhybrid - I can sympathise, I have been thru similar and took to drink, but didnt really realise at the time what I was doing to myself - the drink just made me feel better again. I was quite shocked when friends were concerned, but they did it behind my back at least your OH and friend are telling you too your face. You definately need to grieve and deal with it in your own way, but there are people to talk to and I would definately try some counceling. But yell scream shout, do anything but not what you are doing now. Take care and Ihope that you can get some comfort from somewhere xxx

BitOfFun · 17/01/2010 00:31

A friend of mine reacted exactly the same way to her brother's suicide- you have my sympathies. Thing is, in a while you will have the grief and pain PLUS an alcohol problem. Please ask for some counselling and be honest with the doc about the drinking. You poor darling

alypaly · 17/01/2010 09:04

it may only take one more bottle to get pancreatitis and believe me, it is the worst pain in the whole world. So is gastritis...but nothing like pancreatitis. If you get it,for some it is fatal ,for others it is long road to recovery. I had it ,but not due to alcohol. Now the thought of alcohol fills me with dread just incase the pain returns

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CymbidiumHybrid · 17/01/2010 10:16

I thought long and hard last night.

From today I am giving up drinking for 1 month, if I can't do it or relapse, i'm going to the doctors.

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