Would this make you think?

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Silly question here, please be honest.

I will answer questions where I can but don't want to give out many details as I think someone on mn knows me in rl.

If your dh and closest friend were concerned about the amount of alcohol you drunk, would it make you sit up, take stock and have a word with yourself?

yes it would

Yes, it would, and should.

Also I was not aware until recently of the link between alcohol consupmtion and cancer - much better to cut back - have 3 clear days a week without any alcohol and only drink moderate amounts when you do drink. (I now have cancer so am reading up on all these things - don't leave it too late)

Of course it would! Why on earth wouldn't it? Unless you have very intrusive friends who constantly interfere in your life in an unwelcome way (in which case, why are you friends with them?), they are not going to have mentioned their concerns to you unless they were more than a little bit concerned. And you would have to have a pretty poor relationship with your dh not to listen carefully to what he has to say. There is so much tolerance in society for pretty heavy drinking that I don't think the idea of a "problem" tends to get mentioned until people really are drinking a lot (except maybe by people who are teetotal and rarely mix with anyone who drinks).

Yes, it would very much make me sit up and take notice.

However, people who do have a real problem with alcohol are likely to find it very difficult to accept that fact, and are notoriously difficult to convince that they have a problem.

If you are the drinker - seriously take note of what they're saying, and get help to sort yourself out.

If you're the friend, keep trying, but dont be surprised if she won't believe you.

Good luck with it either way!