8 bags of washing later

[Jem]

My dd who has just turned three, has been dry during the day for a few months until about three weeks ago. Now she just stands there and does it - 12 times a day.

Her temperature isn't up, as far as I can tell her urine looks normal, and I've tried asking non leading questions to find out if urinating is uncomfortable - she says not.

We haven't changed routines recently, and we've tried star charts / removing things she likes.

I would be absolutely positive its something medical if she didn't have this "Mona Lisa" smile - and she didn't go all morning whilst we were out at ballet then went 8 times in 2 hours when we got home.

I've has so many BMFH moments recently (first word rhymes with witch, rest of it is mother from hell) that I'm really starting to feel low about it.

Oh Jem, I can't think what to suggest except that it does sound as if she has some control if she managed to hold on in the morning yet can't/won't at home. I know the smile you mean I think, frustrating isn't it? Have you tried asking her about it? What does she say? What would she say if you suggested nappies again (not recommending this, just wondering how far away from them you feel you are)? We all have BMFH moments but this can't be helping. I hope someone else can be more constructive but sending you my sympathy anyway, it sounds very trying.

I hat eto say it soiunds like a control issue, she knows she is p**sing you off and is seeing how far she can go. My dd did this for a year until I finally snapped, and put her inthe garden in her wet clothes for 10 mins. SHe could see me through the french windows and was going mental, but it prevented me doing worse! However it worked, she realised that I meant busines and it stopped. I hate to say it but being nice maybe the worng thingto do, she can control it, but doesn't want to. I would get harsh. Bear in mind it's not cold, but she will be uncomfortable and this should do teh trick.

My dd was dry for 6 weeks and then did a total u-turn. I ignored it as an issue to her but would talk about it in front of her to friends along the lines of "She was doing so well and was such a big grown up girl but I think she must still be a baby and so we'll have to do baby things like no ice cream...." That sort of thing she cracked after a few days.
Agree with Crunchie don't let her see you rise to the bait.