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A bad swine flu/pregnancy story

31 replies

Tangle · 07/01/2010 18:06

This isn't intended to frighten as I know my experience is very uncommon - but having read as much as I could find the outcome we're going through was way outside my expectation.

In summary, I'm just recovering from swine flu with possible pneumonia and I've lost my baby at 36 weeks.

DH and I made a considered decision for me not to be immunised with the pandemrix vaccine. In the week before Christmas we'd started to change our minds, but were intending to ask for cevlapan (which wouldn't have been available at our GPs till next week), although between the weather and Christmas we hadn't got far on organising things.

On the 28th I felt as though I had a cold. I started coughing ("unproductive" as its since been termed) and had a bit of a runny nose, but nothing too drastic. The next couple of days saw not much change although I felt very tired. Then early morning on the 31st I had started vomiting, and kept it up on and off for a few hours. I had a little diarrhoea but not much. Put it down to something I ate and went to bed (when our LO was alive and kicking my abused muscles). I got some sleep in the afternoon and woke up early evening feeling much better. However, around 9:30 that evening I had a real attack of shivers/chills/shakes, the V&D returned and I started running a bit of a temperature. DH called the flu pandemic line and, although they weren't convinced it was swine flu they prescribed Relenza and told us to call the out of hours GP.

The GP was concerned that I was dehydrated to the point that I needed IV fluids, and was concerned that my pulse was very high (150) and BP very low and called an ambulance. I arrived in hospital about 2am New Years Day and got started on IV fluids. However, when a MW came to check the heartbeat she was unable to find one, and a scan confirmed that our baby had died.

On top of trying to assimilate our loss, I was still not out of the woods. The evening of New Years Day I had another episode of shivers and shakes, with basic stats far enough outside the normal range that, technically, I needed resuscitating. Saturday passed a little more calmly and we got through the night without any further incidents.

As I was then considered medically stable the obs and gynae team were keen to induce me, as they were concerned that if our LO had died of an infection then there was a significant risk to me until she was delivered. Grace Mary was stillborn on Monday morning.

We don't know exactly why she died and have decided against a post mortem. Possibilities include the influenza virus passed to her, the pneumonia (or some other infection) passed to her, she had some underlying condition not identified during standard ante-natal care, when my blood pressure cratered she was unable to tolerate the stress, and that she was corded 3 times very tightly. Most likely it was some combination of these things.

I do know that we were extremely unlucky and that most women that contract swine flu, pregnant or otherwise, will come through with no problems. However, nothing I or DH had read gave us any indication that this outcome for our baby was even possible and I wanted to let other women know what could happen in the worst case. If we had known I don't know whether it would have changed our decision re. vaccination - I suspect it might.

I'm sorry this is more of a brain dump than a coherent story, but we're still just trying to process what's happened. I doubt I'll be on much for a while, so if I don't reply please don't be offended.

OP posts:
popsycal · 07/01/2010 18:09

oh my goodness. I am so very very sorry x

thedollshouse · 07/01/2010 18:10

I am so sorry for your loss.

AuntieMaggie · 07/01/2010 18:14

I am so very sorry for your loss

TotalChaos · 07/01/2010 18:14

I so very sorry your baby died.

sprogger · 07/01/2010 18:15

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MorocconOil · 07/01/2010 18:15

What a terrible loss for you both. So sorry.

Hulababy · 07/01/2010 18:17

So sorry for your loss.

MamaGoblin · 08/01/2010 22:05

I'm so sorry - I can't imagine how you're feeling.

BooHooo · 08/01/2010 22:10

I am so very sorry for your loss. You are in my thougths and prayers.

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 08/01/2010 22:13

I'm so sorry to hear of your terrible loss.
xxx

weaselm4 · 08/01/2010 22:13

How terrible for you, Tangle. I'm so sorry.

beeny · 08/01/2010 22:16

I'm so sorry.I will pray for you.

catbus · 08/01/2010 22:30

I am so very sorry for you and your husband.You are in my thoughts and hoping you stay well.

mama2moo · 09/01/2010 11:02

Im so sorry to hear about your loss

Thinking of you and your husband x

foxinsocks · 09/01/2010 11:10

How awful for you all . I'm so sorry.

Our dd had (suspected) swine flu last week and was really very ill (didn't move from bed for 2 days) and she is a healthy older child. I think it has stopped making the news now too and this has meant people aren't as focused on it.

Our surgery told me that very few people they have written to about the jab (for those with under 5s) have taken it up. Although it may be 'just flu', it does appear to hit the risk groups very hard .

Whether it was swine flu or not, I'm terribly sorry you have been through that and I hope your physical health recovers soon.

brightredballoon · 10/01/2010 18:42

I am so sorry for your loss and yes reading your story has made me think twice now about receiving the vaccine, thank you for sharing your terribly sad story, I hope you continue to make a full recovery from the swine flu.

saltyseadog · 10/01/2010 20:18

Tangle - so sorry to hear your news.

Thinking about you and your family.

sasamaxx · 13/01/2010 22:34

Tangle - this is so sad. I am so very sorry about this.
I am very, hugely indebted to you as you directed me to another forum re babywearing back in 2008. You are a lovely person and I hope that you find the strength to get through this time xxx

PacificDogwood · 13/01/2010 22:38

Tangle, my sincere condolences for your terrible loss, I am so sorry.
Thank you for finding the strength to share your story.
I hope you and your husband can support each other through this awful loss.

JenAT · 13/01/2010 22:44

Tangle, couldn't not reply to your message.So very sorry. Don't know what else to say really but Will be thinking about you. xxx

WildSheepChase · 13/01/2010 22:46

I am so sorry for your loss x

Milliways · 13/01/2010 22:53

Tangle, I am so very sorry for your loss.

Thank you for posting this.

devotion · 14/01/2010 10:43

I am really sorry for your loss x

LouMacca · 14/01/2010 11:03

I am so sorry to see your very sad news, my heart goes out to you and your family.

Will be thinking of you x x

Bettymum · 14/01/2010 11:09

Tangle, yours is such a sad sad story, I am so sorry for your loss. x