I am am at my wits end with dp.Help

[MavisEnderby]

He has a chronic illness that cannot be cured and is prone to chest infections and urine infections.

He currently has a ci.

HE IS STILL SMOKING

despite me getting angry/tearful with him to no avail.

despite me pleading with him to give up,even if not for me for his 2 children

He says i can't force him to give up as he will do it in his own time

it is heartbreaking seeing him have a cig and then go straight for his nebuliser

it is getting me down.

surely he sees the foolishness.

yes he is depressed and i am trying to make allowances

but surely he can see what it is doing to him?ds was in tears the other day.daddy is smoking again.

i feel so angry and helpless.he will not accept any help

he is a stubborn contrary bugger.

selfish selfish selfish

ive had enough

what to do.

This is so hard - to be in such a position that you have to give up...

Somking is worse than heroine for addiction.

Ask him to wrote down on a piece of paper why he has just had a ciggy ater smoking each one?

Nothing judgemental or harsh just a smile request to put in writing why he is actually doing it

Whether he liked it how it tasted, whether it made him feel better, worse.

Buy him the Alan Carr - the only way to quit smoking - it worked for me.

Other than that no idea sorry - it must be tough

What are his feelings about nicotine replacements? I know how difficult it is to kick the habit, but I'm currently looking at electronic cigarettes. I had tried something similar a number of years ago, but those weren't particularly effective. I know that there is the need for the oral experience as well as ease of delivery of the nicotine hit, and I didn't get the latter. There was a thread here about e-cigarettes not too long ago, but I can't find it now.

I can only speak about my own experience as a smoker, but maybe he could be tempted by the idea of something that looks exactly like a cigarette but isn't. Apparently, users of e-cigarettes "light up" in bars, etc. as it seems that these aren't covered by the smoking legislation as there isn't any smoke involved at all. That might appeal to a stubborn contrary bugger.

Unfortunately, they're a bit expensive in terms of the initial cost.

Sorry to say this but, until he decides to quit, you are wasting your time trying to persuade him. I have worked with lots of addicts of all sorts and it's heart-breaking to see the effects of the addiction on their families, but nothing works until the addict himself makes the decision to stop.