Some of these stories are very frightening! I think I'm very glad to have given birth in rural Australia! I know my experiences are not suitable for the purpose here, but I really want you all to know that birth and aftercare isn't always so terrible.
Throughout preganancy I visited my GP at her practice and she was to deliver the baby at the local hospital. I attended the hospital's pre-natal classes and we met some of the midwives and had a tour of the delivery rooms and Maternity Motel.
The Maternity Motel is not common in Australia and I am just lucky enough to live near a town that had one (I say "had" as, due to funding problems it has since been closed down...but they have redone the ward in the hospital making it all single rooms with ensuites, so that should be OK too!). The Maternity Motel was a separate unit in the grounds of the hospital. Women were admitted to the maternity ward (where there were four single rooms but shared bathrooms) and delivered in one of the 4 delivery rooms which had everything that opens and shuts, comfy lounge, birthing stools etc and one spa bath between them (if you are lucky enough to get in first). After delivery (at which at least one midwife was present 100% of the time and you can have as many support people present as you wish) that night is generally spent in one of the ward rooms and the midwives offer to take the baby for you so you can catch up on sleep, although this is not compulsory if you'd prefer to keep baby with you.
The next morning (barring complications) women and babies are generally moved to the Motel. The Motel consists of 12 single rooms with ensuites and a large common room area with kitchen facilities and TV. Mobile phones are allowed in the Motel, but not in the hospital rooms, and the Motel also has a phone that mothers are free to use for local calls and there are two public pay phones available for long distance calls.
The Motel provides cloth nappies, gowns and booties for babies and a laundry service for these is provided. The Motel also provides baby baths (and bathing lessons), soaps, creams etc for babies. The mother needs to provide all her own clothes and toiletries. All the rooms (including ensuites) were cleaned every day while I was there and bed linen was changed every second day unless it needed to be changed each day. Meals were brought to the common room and most women ate there (food was mostly pretty gross but I guess that's how it is with bulk cooking), but there were also tea, coffee, biscuits, toast etc available 24 hours.
Each day the new mums and bubs were gathered together in the common room (not compulsory, but suggested) for group chats on baby care stuff (bathing, settling baby, latching on etc), to watch videos (on breastfeeding, settling baby, recognising signs of overtired infant etc) and for the physio to come in and start us off with things like correct posture for feeding, lifting baby, pelvic floor and abdominal muscle exercises etc.
There were two midwives present in the Motel 24 hours a day and while the skill was very varied and some of the advice conflicting, they all tried to help with breasfeeding and any other problems we may have had.
The doctors (obstetricians, GP, paediatrician) visited each mother/baby they were responsible for every day and we all had to have breastfeeding established (if we were choosing to breastfeed, which all of us were), or a definite plan of action before they were happy for us to leave. I think the average stay for a first time mum is 4 days, long enough for most women's milk to come in.
Partners were welcome to stay as long as they wanted and folding beds and breakfast were available if they decided to stay the night. Other family visitors were also welcome to visit whenever the mother was up to it. The whole Maternity Motel was surrounded by a childsafe fence (with appropriate childproof gates) allowing a large area with tables, chairs and some toys for a safe area for visiting toddlers. Overall, the whole experience was generally pretty good for mums, babies and visitors.
Unfortunately, the Motel has been closed down, but the new facilities in the hospital look pretty good (single rooms with ensuites and the same common room system) and the same midwives etc are still there.....only now mum's are in the hopsital environment where they can hear women in labour at all hours!
I know the majority of Australian public hosptials would not have a system this good and there are many problems with our health system in general (long waiting lists for surgery, overcrowded wards etc) but I just wanted you all to know that it can happen, a pleasant hospital birth can exist for people withour private health insurance!!
Good luck to you all and I hope highlighting the problems helps you to get better facilities and care for women and babies in the UK.