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Any dentist out there ? worried sick

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mumof2000 · 02/11/2009 14:32

I have had 2 ulcers the past week ,(gone now ) went to see my dentist last week and hygenist , dentist looked round mouth /gums as i have HA and wanted to put my mind at rest , now i have another one coming i think , i have been constant checking pulling back top/side lip cheek to apply iglu to other ulcers.
it looks like a raised white spot at this stage quite small , wasnt there this morning ...but is now ...doesnt hurt yet should i put anything on it now or wait and see

worried could be MC . but im thinking wouldnt come so quick would it ?

please help if can very worried,,,

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mumof2000 · 02/11/2009 15:40

right what ever it was/is its popped (sorry) as fullof clear stuff ...not white any more ....maybe was blister type ting ? not sore and flat now will wait and see now what happens ...gargaling with corsydyl mouth wash ..

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wicked · 02/11/2009 16:03

Is it on your gum or cheek?

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mumof2000 · 02/11/2009 16:11

upper cheek, can feel it much any more nr front teeth

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mumof2000 · 02/11/2009 16:12

i ment cant feel it much

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mumof2000 · 02/11/2009 20:21

bump ... its slightly raised again looking in internet could it be a mucocolo cant spell to well ? or blocked saliva gland ..

so worried ..

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littlejo67 · 02/11/2009 21:09

Its not mouth cancer, skin cancer or any other fatal disease. Its H.A. Hugs.

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mumof2000 · 02/11/2009 21:11

still worried though but thanks anyway

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mumof2000 · 03/11/2009 08:17

today its now like a white spot slightly raised ...maybe will turn into ulcer now ...should i put cream on it now or wait ...hmmmmi been using that iglu and has been good on other ulcers ...
was only in dentist last week saw hygenist and had dentist check all mouth/gums whilst there as i do worry , he said all looked fine so hoping in a week this cant be something really bad can it ? or can it ?

worried please help if can

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mumof2000 · 28/11/2009 08:56

another mouth worry , had check up last week and x-rays all fine , now where i must have bitten lumpy bit still there ? im sure was there when i went last week so i guess dentist would have noticed if was something bad ? he gave me a full neck jaw check up , looked at toungue , gums the lot and took x-rays .

am i just over reacting ?
i had a bit the other week that looked similar and had like a scab bit on i like id bitten and it had healed , then scab bit came off now fine .
this looks similar but bit higher up , with the same line like scab bit , so hoping will go ...
i such a worry wart .... as have HA bad at moment to ..

thanks for listening

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loopylou6 · 28/11/2009 17:35

Aww bless ya mumof200 i feel your pain, Ive been just where u are now, convinced i had MC. Anything nasty wouldnt just appear over night, does it line up with your teeth? could be its connecting with your teeth wen you're asleep or something? Can i ask, are you taking any antidepressants? If not you should really consider it,HA is an awful awful thing that totally takes over your life, i remember when i was worrying about something, i couldnt enjoy anything at all, felt like iw as in the middle of a black cloud with my tablets though, im no where near as bad. big hugs.

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mumof2000 · 29/11/2009 07:16

Thanks loopylou6..... i think it is where i have bitten down many times and now have a ridge of tissue there and a little scab type thing as result , im trying to eat the other side to see if it goes ,but quite hard as im missing 2 lower teeth there i do deep down know i cant be something bad as i have just had full check up x-rays etc but theres always that little devil of self doubt on my shoulder .....whispering ....you could be wrong ? what if it is and they missed it ? etc and thats the part that takes over with my HA on many many things ..
I have a prescription down stirs for AD from doc but am to frightened to take them , my DH doesnt want me to ...and im not sure as i will worry about side effects etc ...

iv been trying to keep busy and get out a bit more as being at home doesnt help , but once i get something in my head i litrely cant do anything , i get down , depressed and like you said im in the middle of a big black cloud

and i get over one issue and another will appear ...and the circle continues ...

went to docs the Friday as worried as lymb gland up on neck ...got myself in such a state ..thinking the worst ....
he said my ears were badly blocked and thinks thats why gland is up , and i shouldnt worry , having them suringed next week , but i know im now thinking what if its not ? what if its something els ...

Please any ideas on how i can cope better ? what do you do now loopylou6?
How are you now ?

sorry big rant ...
Thanks for listening
xx

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hippipotamiHasLost75lbs · 29/11/2009 12:33

Mumof2000, first of all, big hug.

I was exactly where you are now 5 years ago. My HA was taking over my life. (looking back I had suffered for at least 5 years before that but midly at first and it gradually got worse until I was at the stage you are now)

Please please take the ADs. That is all I can say.
After seeing a few GP's (who fobbed me off as being paranoid/anxious but refused to do anythign about it) I saw a lovely GP who immediately saw the state of me, diagnosed HA and prescribed ADs. Like you, I was weary of taking them. At first they did not help, teh brand adn dosage had to be modified a few times until we got it right. I took them (venlafaxine) for nearly 2 years. Nine months after starting the AD's I also had counselling for the HA. (The waiting list for NHS counselling was a bit long and my GP did not want to refer me until the ADs had started taking effect and I was able to look at my HA more objectively...) I can honestly say they changed my life. I have now been off the AD's for 3 years. I still get teh odd anxiety niggle when I have a healthworry but am able to put it out of my mind and think rationally - I am currently suffering from psoriasis, I know it is psoriasis but 5 years ago it would definately have been skin cancer.
HA has a tendency to take over your life.
Don't let it. If you have been given ADs it is because teh GP believes you need them. Listen to him / her.
And as for your dh not wanting you to take them - why exactly? When I was at my worst dh would have given me anything to bring me out of the constant 'spiral of doom' I was trapped in.

Honestly, take the AD's and arrange for some counselling once the AD's have taken effect. It will change your life for the better. Honestly

hippipotamiHasLost75lbs · 29/11/2009 12:36

btw - yes some ADs have side effects, but they cannot be any worse than the state you are currently in?
As it was I was on two brands of ADs, Prozac (which did nothing but I had no side effects either) and Venlafaxine which worked a treat and I don't remember having side effects. If I did, they were mild and so worth it seeing as I was becoming free of HA.

If you do get sideeffects your GP will change your ADs until you find one that suits you.

loopylou6 · 29/11/2009 12:56

I echo Hippi.

Please please PLEASE take the tablets, you are suffering when you dont need to be.

I was the same as you, i had numerous prescriptions that i never cashed in, was worried about taking tablets etc. One day i went the docs with my latest cancer worry, it was a stand in GP who i saw, the poor woman literally ended up flopped over her desk saying 'for gods sake, please take the tablets'. So i gave in, i started takingthem, AND IT WAS THE BEST MOVE I HAVE EVER MADE.

I take Citalopram, the only side effects ihad where lots of vivid dreams, and now i am 90% better than i was, i feel like i have been given a new lease of life, i still get anxious slightly sometimes if i have a sore throat or a niggling pain somewhere, but with the tablets i dont catasrophise like i used to.

All i can say to you, is PLEASE take the tablets, i guarantee you a light at the end of the tunnel and a freedom from the hell that is health anxiety.

You say your husband isnt keen on you taking meds? well with all due respect, it is not him who is suffering the pure unhappiness and anxiety that you have to deal with everyday, if you take these meds it will also benifit him because his life will be easier when you're not stressed out and worrying.

alypaly · 29/11/2009 14:19

sorry to be thick...what is HA?

your lump on your cheek could be caused by stress. I use to get them level with my teeth...caused by biting at night. My dentist always looked at the tip of my tongue and said if you can see your teeth marks indented in your tongue tip,you are stressed. he was right because as you relax ,your tongue drops back and does not press on your teeth

loopylou6 · 29/11/2009 15:12

HA = Health anxiety

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mumof2000 · 29/11/2009 21:07

Thank you all sooooo much , your words mean a great deal to me , all that you have said makes complete sense to me and i know your all right , its just taking the first step ...
some days i feel ''im ok im coping i havent got HA at all ...that was just a bad day '''... UNTIL the next wave of HA comes along ... then im back to square one ...
and so the circle continues ...

I tend to think i'll keep busy etc and be ok ..

i have the prescription citalopram 10mg but have not got tablets yet ..

im going through alot of problems also with other familty issues which are really getting me down to , i will try and talk to my DH and see what he thinks to as i o really want his support to , he is very patient and does do all he can .

i know it cant be easy for him living with me like i get sometimes ..

the mouth is the same going to try to limit mouth checking to 2 times a day as appose to about 20 as this is i know raising my anxiety further ..

Thanks for listening to me .
xxx

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alypaly · 29/11/2009 23:51

if its any help, when i was really really stressed,the sides of my tongue at the back were sore and i was forever checking it too and then i was imagining that it was more lumpy and a slightly different colour. I got myself in a real tizz for months,thinking i had cancer of the mouth ,but when my dentist told me to look at these indentations on my tongue...he was soooo right,it was just stress.Stress is a very powerful thing and so is auto-suggestion....try and chillax and convince yourself that there is nothing wrong. We all have a weak point,yours might be your mouth, othres get a tight chest(and then think they are having a heart attack when it is just muscle spasm due to stress.Try not to worry

winnybella · 30/11/2009 09:07

I don't see why you need your dh's approval to take ADs. It's not him living with HA, is it?
Have you considered a therapy-CBT could work.
I have HA, but probably not to the extent you've got it, and I got much better at reasoning with myself whenever I panic. Actually I went for a breast ultrasound last week very calm,thinking the lump was most probably nothing and if it was something serious, well, then better to find out as early as possible.
You don't have to live with HA, you can either take ADs, or do therapy, or both.
And it should to be your decision, not your husband's.

alypaly · 30/11/2009 09:38

mumof2000
its not easy living with this an i think DH is wonderfully supportive for you. I am not surprised you are stressed/depressed with whats going on in other link. Try to believe the doctors when all these test come back normal. Most of this is stress related and the mouth checking is becoming almost an OCD type symptom. Deep down YOU are crying out for help as all your situation is becoming to much for you and you are going into overoad.
From experience,dont rely on your tablets to make you better,you need to deal with what is causing the problem. You are in a fortunate position of knowing why you are depressed and you would really benefit from trying to deal with each issue,slowly and individually and sorting each one out(or doing your best with each issue).
Tablets are not the cure as i found out...coming to terms with everything is and dealing face on with everything is. And i am convinced that it will help you to stop worrying that you are ill. Depression is very powerful and it makes our bodies play tricks on us by causing pains in our weak spots.

Hope this helps...ive been there and emerged from the mess...you will come out of this a stronger person if you deal with the problems.

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mumof2000 · 30/11/2009 15:45

thanks alypaly , youv seen my other thread then ? Im struggling at the moment i know and HA always worse at stressful times like this .
Im to scared to take AD at moment . will try to calm down a bit , i have been working through a book on how to overcome anxiety and this is helping a little , ( when i get chance to read it that is ) right now my mum is the one on my mind all the time and how to deal with that ...
thanks for listening again x

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