need some advice from nurses

[robinw]

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um,some places of work do not allow any staff to receive any gifts from relatives,token or otherwise,however,if this is not the case then i dont see why you shouldnt go ahead and give a very small(monetarily speaking) gift,if others are jealous then tough!every patient/member of staff do have carers/clients they really gel with and its nice to think your mother did.i have in the past received little gifts(hankies!chocs,most extravegant a £5 book token from a patient who shared my love of reading)i would never accept anything of value or money,and same goes for collegues.my condolences to you on the loss of your mother.

Not at all, Robinw. It is not unusual for special relationships to form with certain nurses and they are all aware of that. Technically nurses are not supposed to accept gifts from patients but I would say that in practice that is not usually a problem. They certainly would not accept a gift of cash.
It may be that a letter telling him of your mothers high regard of him would be valued more than an actual gift. I have had touching letters from mothers in the past which I have kept as mementos. HTH.

I don't think it will cause jealousy.But as you have given him a present once Mears idea of a letter expressing your thanks sounds like a good idea.When my mother died we sent a huge tin of luxury biscuits to the (fantastic) community care team.To the home care nurse who was "in charge" and who had formed a close relationship with my mum and dad,and who was wonderfully supportive in the last few days we gave a shrub for her garden.
The year before when my grandmother died my mum gave M&S vouchers to the staff of the nursing home.I think she gave different values to different members of staff according (Isuppose) to how much contact they had had with my gran.

yes,robinw,completely agree about a letter!

I also agree, a letter sounds a lovely idea, I've always believed that something 'homemade' with thought and effort is far more precious than something bought.

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I would do both robinw.

I agree that a letter to both would be nice. I still have letters and presents from patients from nearly the past 20 years. Whatever the "gift" it really is the thought and memory that counts.
I am sure that whatever you do it will be appreciated.

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