Robinw thanks for thinking of me, things were going well at home until the brother turned up. Thanks for asking.
Things are not good here. It has just dawned on me that after a 12 year absence my brother comes home 4 hours after hearing his Dad is dead.
His feet are firmly under the table and he has been doing Mums garden today.
The family party has been cancelled. I said to my other brother that it will just be spoiled anyway as all we'll talk about is the ill brother.
I can't forgive my brother for what has happened over the years, threatening to kill my Dad to his face, punching my Dad in the face on my wedding day, saying to my Dad's face that when he dies he will dance on his grave at the funeral.
Over the past 12 years every time he has phoned it has caused upset and misery. I am fed up with it, he doesn't act or feel like my brother, he is a stranger to me in my Mum's house.
Today again he said he didn't believe Dad was dead and I said that I watched him die and that he was dead. He told me I sounded like the Yorkshire Ripper.
I know he is ill and there is nothing I can do about his behaviour but I am upset that my Mum is behaving in this way.
Today he asked me where the local tax office is, I said I didn't know and why did he want to know that. For the inheritance tax he said, I said what inheritance tax, there isn't any (as Dad left everything to Mum). What he was talking about was Mum's inheritance tax when she dies. My answer was that she's not dead yet you know.
I feel very alone. I really felt like our relationship (Mum and me) was really going well since Dad died and was exciting to talk about doing up the house and moving to a new one by a river that she likes. I just feel it has all gone now and I know it's selfish but I feel he has now got her 'prisoner' in her own home.
(If you've got a spare few hours you may like to read the thread I started a very long time ago called 'Am I the only one with a miserable mother'.)
Rhiannon