It seems that I might be a little late to the party here but may be able to help a bit. I am a haemaology lab scientist AND also have Factor V Leiden thrombophilia.
So - like eightieschick, I had to be injected with heparin (clexane) throughout my pg. Warfarin is contraindicated in pregnancy because of the risk to the foetus, but is ok in breastfeeding apparently. I did make sure that I agreed to the vitamin K injection for DS when he was born though, just in case. I have not had any clots, but my Dad has had 2 DVTs, one after surgery, the day after he flew back from Russia (so two risk factors in very short time) and the other some time later but I can't remember what he'd been doing; I think he'd been ill in bed and the inactivity brought it on. He is still not on lifelong warfarin though - although his mother was. But then a paternal aunt of his died of a DVT (PE from it, more likely) 2 days after her hip replacement operation, so we're not sure which side Dad got it from.
However, I always take a shot of heparin before I travel from Australia to the UK and vice versa, just to be on the safe side. I have no wish to get a clot!
Re. the connection with your sister's conditions - SLE is an autoimmune condition, that may or may not be linked to genetic variants but is unlikely to be directly linked to your PGV.
From what I can see, your sister's APS is secondary to her SLE, a common combination, and again is an autoimmune condition where loads of antibodies are made and clog the place up. So again, not directly linked to your PGV, just bloody unlucky.
As you have stated, you now have to come of the combined OC pill, but you may still be able to use the progesterone-only OC pill. If you get pg, you will need to go under a haematology consultant anyway, and have heparin injections. Because you've already had a PE, it's likely that you would need your heparin earlier than me or my sister (we started at 16w) so you would need to go to the doc asap and get a haematology appt sorted asap. Talk to your haematology consultant about pg, if this is a possibility, and see what he/she advises.
Anyway.
babs - assuming that you are talking about Tamoxifen in relation to the breast cancer, it's a hormone-receptor regulator - it is supposed to block oestrogen receptors in the body, thus preventing oestrogen-sensitive cancers from being stimulated. This may or may not affect free oestrogen levels in the blood, I'm not sure - but if it does AND you have a thrombophilic condition, then that explains the tamoxifen's contribution to your DVTs/PEs. Just like the combined OC pill, which also contains a form of oestrogen; and pg, which also increases oestrogen levels.
You cannot be tested for thrombophilia by normal lab clotting tests while on warfarin, as it will interfere with the results. Factor 8 is more usually linked with clotting deficiency, rather than excessive clotting - Factor 5 Leiden is the most common cause for genetic thrombophilia, but there are other factors that can cause it.
I doubt you would get anyone to get gene testing done, given that you are already being medically managed for the situation - you'd probably have to get it done privately, and your use of the word coumadin suggests that you may not be in the UK, so it could be extremely expensive (well, it probably would be in the UK as well, tbf).
HTH.