"1) will it be painful injecting every day? after 10 days of jabs the bruises were getting bigger and bigger and there was less available space to do more - so what is it like doing it for several months?"
A bloody nuisance. I was getting DH to do it in my thighs and after 24 weeks of it I wondered if the bruises would ever truly disappear (they did but it took a while). Better in the belly, apparently.
"2) When I had heparin injections initially and when my INR had dropped they were done at the hospital, during pregnancy they expect you to do them yourself - is it difficult, do you worry about doing it wrong or injecting air or injecting into pregnant stomach etc?"
Couldn't bear the thought of doing it myself - DH had to do it. In thighs as prev mentioned cos of my concerns about injecting into massively tight belly. Air not an issue.
"3) worrying about the risk of getting another dvt and having big problems or worse (dying) from it - very scary (and something that they were never able to say very much about first time around, despite all the dvt scare stories that you hear on the news, couldn't or wouldn't say what that risk was. Or would be should I get pregnant again"
Can't answer that one as have never had DVT - have Factor V Leiden, hence need for heparin.
"4) does heparin really really not harm the baby or have any other long term consequences?"
Really doesn't harm the baby - cannot cross the placenta. No obvious longterm consequences so long as you don't damage yourself physically giving the injections - it doesn't last long enough, which is why daily injections are needed.
"5) what is birth like if you are using heparin - are there risks of excessive bleeding or going into sponteous labour or not being able to have epidural/c-section/etc?"
Heparin management will be discussed with consultant obst and consultant haematologist. Iirc, you must stay on the heparin until you are in actual labour, not the initial contractions, just in case. THen of course you stop for the birth but have to start again afterwards, while also taking warfarin, until your first INR result to ensure that your clotting is at the right level. Again, iirc, there were no issues with epidural etc., but then I hadn't had a DVT so it might be different for you. But you should be under consultant care, both haematology and obstetric, to make sure your needs are covered properly.
"6) any other worries or issues that you encountered that I haven't thought of!"
Breastfeeding - I was concerned about the warfarin but they assured me it was ok.
PLus I was taking daily fishoil supplements, which have an anticoagulant effect, but my consultant haematologist knew of no problem with me doing that as well as having daily heparin.
HTH!