Hi there
I have the BRACA1 mutation in my genes, through my mothers side of the family.
I am a regualr mumsnetter mainly on the Fly htreads so....
This means I had an 85% lifetime risk of Breast Cancer and a 60% risk of ovarian and the other cancers.
My mum is the only female member of the family who has got to 54 withour having anytype of cancer and the only female to live to 65.
It was diagnosed due to family history and my aunt (mums youngest sister) being diagnosed with Primary Peritoneal cancer way back in 2005. She is thankfully in remission currently and doing very well.
I had an oophorectomy in July 2008 (ovaries and tubes removed) to reduce my risk of those cancers, doing this before my 35th birthday was believed to be even further risk reducing by some studies. I had colonoscopy and gasgoscopy to check those areas was having a double mastectomy and reconstruction in Feb this year.
At the time my boys were two and nearly 4, so decided to have a bi-lateral mastectomy and reconsructrion with implants, mainly due to the recovery and operation being shorter. My cousin had a trans flat and all though the results are fantastic she was off her feet a fare while - not too bad for her as her children were 15 and 16. Also I chose not to keep any of my breast tissue including nipples, as that would have increased the risk of cancer. I was told this would reduce my risk for 85% to around 6%.
I went in and had the operation on 28 Feb - op itself was fine, pain was managable - I was on a self administered pump initially for morphine and I had two drains in. I was up and about the same day.
I stayed in hospital 5 days and came home with the drains in. returning for dressings and check ups. Drains were to be removed once fluid got doen to less than 20ml per 24 hours. That never happend for me, infact I had a massisve increase in fluid after day 7.
So consultant decided to take drains out anyway and see what hap[ened. It was then that things went drastiocally wrong I had had a reaction to the impalants and had to have them revmoved along with affected tissue and skin. Then I got septicemia and almost died
I have been left with really emotional issues and feelins about the way I look. I feel butchered. DH find it difficult to look at the area let alone touch it
So I need some help to come to terms with what has happened and learn some techniques to enable me to accept that this has happened and this is the way I am going to be for the forseable future, if not forever.
Sorry if that turned into an essay. It hurts to be left like this, even though I did it for all the right reasons, to be with my precious family for longer. It doesnt stop me feeling mutulated .
I know that I made the right decicion for me to have the risk reducing surgery, but I was not prepared for things to go this wrong - it is very rare.
In some ways I felt that I had no decision to make and that by doing nothing I would have been signing my dealth sentance. I have seen my aunt go though the chemo etc, I have also witness another one loss her battle with cancer, along with many of my mums cousins. I dont remember my Grandma, as she died when I was very young.
I live in hope that the fact that they can identify the spelling mistake in my genes, means that when the time comes for my boys to be tested that not only can they identify it but they can correct it at source.
Feel free to ask any questions you may have. I am sorry that you have to go through this and also so sorry for your mother too.