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I think i have PND.....

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misdee · 05/05/2005 10:19

have docs appointment later on, will probably get given anti depressants.

does this mean i have to give up breastfeeding?

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Blossomhill · 05/05/2005 17:43

Misdee - don't feel like you have failed. After everything you have been through I am not surprised you feel the way you do.
I had PND after my ds so I know how you feel. Hugsxx

nutcracker · 05/05/2005 17:46

Awwwwww Misdee, you have not failed, you have realised you are not coping and have took yourself off to get help, that is not failiure it is being brave and getting help.

I had pnd after Dd2 and Ds and no it isn't a nice place to be in but you will be fine withe some help.

swedishmum · 05/05/2005 18:07

I can't think of anyone less of a failure than you - you are inspirational to lots of others on here, especially those of us who have a tendency to feel sorry for ourselves for no good reason. I'm sure you'll start to feel better soon.

sparklymieow · 05/05/2005 18:26

I feel guilty because I feel I made you cry the other day

pixiefish · 05/05/2005 18:32

Just a quickie misdee. I'm not surprised you don't feel well- you have an awful lot to cope with and you do so marvelously- nothing wrong with having a bit of help evry now and then and if you need AD's now then take them. You will feel better soon. Lots of hugs and try to get some sleep

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misdee · 05/05/2005 21:12

you didnt make me cry mieow. its me not coping with dd2 challenging behaviour. oh she now has an obsession with escalators, so have had to chase and ctach her several times today in town as she legged it towards them. with her clumsiness i can see a major accident waiting to happpen.

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sparklymieow · 05/05/2005 21:13

good I thought you were crying because I asked what was up with her when we had the temper tamturms (sp??) in town...

marthamoo · 05/05/2005 21:34

misdee, Citalopram is what I'm on - and, as I said, I continued to breast-feed with no problems. I take it in the morning, with my pill, so I don't forget. I didn't have any side-effects - no drowsiness, nothing. What dose are you on? I started on 20mgs but that wasn't enough so I went up to 40. It will take a couple of weeks but you should start to feel better.

Please don't say you're a failure. You are bloody inspirational. Honestly, if I had half what you have to cope with going on in my life I would be a gibbering heap slumped in a corner.

I really hope you start to feel better soon. I felt a little better just for seeing my GP and admitting I needed some help - even though I knew the pills wouldn't start working straight away just knowing that they would helped me cope a little better. Hang on in there, and keep talking.

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misdee · 06/05/2005 08:42

i feel better today. actually slept last night. dd3 slept the whole night through which helped. and the other 2 didnt play up too much. will take the 1st tablet later on today.

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QueenEagle · 06/05/2005 09:03

Hi misdee. Glad to hear you're feeling better.

The sun is shining too which helps

hub2dee · 07/05/2005 11:52

Hiya, good news about the FF / driving lessons. I hope they go really well for you so you can enjoy your new car, relieve sparkly of her chauffeur's cap and ge to Harefield as often as you'd like to.

In addition to whatever you've organised with your GP, if it's possible, old-fashioned exercise / walking - maybe even some dancing you old DJ rugrat - might really help too. Your problems might also not strictly be PND (although I am in no position to guess and have no knowledge of this)... Serena's timing (that is your babba, right ?) also coincided with monumental stress re: Pete, so it could be more to do with the pleasant amount of poo on your shoulders / doorstep than the pleasant amount of poo in your fuzzi bunz, IYSWIM.

marthamoo · 07/05/2005 11:54

Hub2dee, you are rather lovely

How are you doing now, misdee? I hope the sun's still shining and you're managing to get some sleep.

hub2dee · 07/05/2005 12:05

Not really. Misdee seems rather lovely. And in desperate need of some help too !

But, if you insist, you can join the 'family' LOL !!! lookey here.

Misdee: You remember when someone on MN was feeling v.v.v. down and lots of suggestions for agencies which help in crisis etc. were made... is there any chance one of those sorts of groups might be able to make some aspect of your insane existence a little, erm... less insane ?

hub2dee · 07/05/2005 12:09

One other point... I was readnig through some of the MN interviews with various parenting authors / 'experts' and one pointed out the need for private 'couple time' away from the kids... no in your case obviously the kids go mental with dh comes back, but could you contemplate scheduling several hours / a night / whatever just for the two of you ?

hub2dee · 07/05/2005 12:10

typo: now in your case...

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misdee · 07/05/2005 13:06

still feeling less stressed. the AD are making me lightheaded tho. about an hour after taking them i feel a bit, well, floopy. very odd. hope it doesnt continue otherwise wont be able to drive. unless i takle them at night. tho have been told best time is before lunch.

the sun is breaking through the clouds. will phone HV on monday to see about support groups and also phone the harefield one for families of those needing transplants. time to get my fears out in the open i think.

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hub2dee · 07/05/2005 16:49

I agree. There's no point hiding.

In one of your threads you mentioned one day maybe volunteering for Friends of Harefield... you want to be able to support others going through the weird hell you are currently living...

... at the moment, it is you who needs that kind of support, to have a moan and a rant and a freak ('how can I want someone to die NOW for my husband')... they will be experienced at appreciating this kind of torture, they'll know what to expect, psychologically speaking, when. And they'll know what, from their previous studies / experiences works as coping strategies etc.

Help others in the future, but at the moment let them help you.

X

hub2dee · 08/05/2005 20:16

How's it going, misdee ? Did the sunshine help ?

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misdee · 08/05/2005 22:02

today cwas ok, actually cleaned my home. i cant say top to bottom as its all one level. am gpoing to taker my ADs before bed now, as wasd too spaced out in the afternoons. it was like being on high dose of codeine.

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hub2dee · 08/05/2005 22:15

so you cleaned it from left to right and from front to back !

Is Pete still home ?

Are you two gonna be able to steal away for a few hours maybe at some point just to sit somewhere quiet and catch up without all the buzz of the kids or is that impossible because of the kids / baby sitters / his health ?

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misdee · 08/05/2005 22:17

Peter is still home, but is having a rough time so he may go back tomorrow to harefield will see how he goes during the night.

am trying to see if i can get a babysitter midweek so i can go to the pool. not too comfortable leaving the dd's in a creche just yet.

btw a pic for u on members profiles.

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hub2dee · 08/05/2005 22:22

Of newborn Serena complete with stump and super-mop ?

Saw it ! Cute !

Crap Pete is so up and down (crap he's up and down, not 'Crap Pete'). . If he was around in longer 'blocks' I'm sure it would be easier.

Does he know all about your MN friends ? Do all the syberhugs make a difference or in RL does it just feel sureally shit ?

hub2dee · 08/05/2005 22:27

Just seen bundler shot !

Am insisting on lots of white babysuit / vest thingies and some babygros and will try a bundler. LOL.

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misdee · 08/05/2005 22:28

it does m,ake a difference in a good way, as i know that theres always soeone here, and even typing it all down helps. Peter thinks it great that loads of women are thinking of him as well.

and no i havent had a fag.

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hub2dee · 08/05/2005 22:36

Didn't ask about the gags

But I'm glad you haven't.

The Catharsis of an Online Splurge.

Hey, I noticed your stuff on friends / RL thread... the nicest / most interesting people often don't have a big circle of friends... and even if you did have, when you get some pile of crap landing on your shoulders, like your dh's health many people (friends) find it so hard to cope with, and don't know what to say or do they end up steering well clear...

Be interesting to see how the ADs help.