Do you get told if you shouldn't have more children??

[sadie76]

Sorry if this seems a daft question, also not sure if it's in the correct topic area.

DH and I would like to TTC a third child but have had complications with first 2 DC. IUGR with DS1 resulting in me having to take haparin/ clexane throughout pg with DS2. This stuff is supposed to deplete your calcium levels and increase likelihood of osteoporosis (I was asked my plans for more children during pg no.2 but said no, I'm not having anymore!). In my 2nd c-section they had probs getting the epidural into my back although the senior anaesthetist did it straight away. So basically have a few concerns, any advice appreciated.

all the records for the last two will be held by the hospital so your gp can request these and discuss any issues with you. good luck .

Thanks, I have thought about going to my GP but suspect they won't be able to answer most of my questions. I suppose I'd like to talk to my old consultant about it but wonder whether I'd get a referral purely for this...

A friend of mine was told in no uncertain terms to not have another child unless she wanted to end up in a wheelchair. She developed a very rare complication which basically meant her baby took all it's calcium needs straight from her bones and if it happened again her bones would just crumble (I'm sure it's not a simple as that but I don't know the technicalities).

So, yes, you would be told if it was an absolute no no for you. I'd imagine that you'd more likely be given a risk factor for another pg so a trip to your GP for a referral to an good consultant would probably be your best start.

I'm really sorry about your friend Olihan. I know it isn't as black and white for me. I'm just not sure a GP would refer me to a consultant to discuss this but I guess I should ask!

I would ask, otherwise I don't know how you would ever find out. Take a list of questions with you and see what the GP says. If he/she doesn't know (which they most likely won't as it's not their area of speciality) then insist on being referred to someone who does.

You need to know, you don't want to put yourself or a baby at any extra risk.