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breast worries

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Iworryalot · 02/03/2009 17:15

has anyone had any got lumpy knotty bits under where there bra sits ? i have very small breasts and suffer bad from health anx , keep feeling my breasts , looking for lumps so much so im brused ... wondered if anyone els had similar , should i be worried .... dont hurt and very moveable , have booked appt with breast clinic tomorrow but still soooooooooooo worried and scared my actual breasts seem ok i think ... when i lye down cant feel bumpy bits but when i sit up i can ..

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Iworryalot · 03/03/2009 07:43

so worried this.morning , could cry also havent told my dh as dont want him to worry but am feeling guilty as we dont have secrets .... appt at 12.30 ..
thanks for help x

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watsthestory · 03/03/2009 07:51

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Iworryalot · 03/03/2009 08:07

Thank you both , im sure iv made it worse as feel brused as i have been poking checking almost hourly daily , dh just left for work , i know i should tell him but as im always worried bout some health issue everyone is sick of me .... sorry ..
Glad to here you got the all clear watsthestory

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Iworryalot · 03/03/2009 08:15

your so right i have been doing that all the time seeing if it has gone /changed , confused for what it is .. hence the appt today ... i think also confused cos one breast is def more bony and ribs seem to stand out more on one side , always have , and because im so flat chested can feel every thing ..

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Iworryalot · 03/03/2009 08:30

thank you , im trying reflexology and she giving me theropy to , tried NHS councling ( cant spell) but that didnt help and dried up after a while , trying relaxation when can ..my reflexologist would like to try hypnosis on me so may give that a go ..
thank you for listening x

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Iworryalot · 03/03/2009 10:00

thanks will let you know later god im scared ..

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Iworryalot · 03/03/2009 14:26

Im Back [grin ]
all went ok , i was soooooo scared lady doc examined me couldnt find anything sinister only fatty breast tissue explained also that can often be like little lumps specially as iv been poking around for days ... showed me how to examine them myself and to only do it once or twice a month , and with the flats of fingers together not the tips .
feel relieved ..
thanks for all advice given you were all so kind xx{{{hug}}}
got to work on the health anx now more i think any sugestions ?

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Winetimeisfinetime · 03/03/2009 17:14

Hi iwal, so pleased everything was ok. Try and enjoy the euphoria of getting the all clear for as long as possible !

I saw this thread today and wondered if you had seen it www.mumsnet.com/Talk/feeling_depressed/709746-Health-Anxiety-please-someone-speak-some-sense-to-me

It's hard to know what to suggest as my anxieties have just seemed to get better with age - probably also because over the last few years I've had to deal with some really, really bad situations which seem to have put things in more perspective for me - so now finding a lump or something would still be worrying but I would know that it could be dealt with and there would be every chance it would be ok.
I also try and not worry beyond the 'next step' if I can { not easy I know } so for instance with my breast pain, once I had made the dr's appt I rationalise that I have done all I can for the time being so won't worry about it anymore { still do but not as much as I used to } and try very hard not to focus on it or keep checking whatever it is and keep busy with other things.

It does help me that my dh is reasonably sympathetic and helps me with all this and I wonder if you perhaps need a bit more support with your anxiety from your dh or other people around you. Also he will Google things for me and just tell me as much as he thinks I need to know as I find Googling symptoms can very easily start a spiral of panic.

The only other thing I can suggest is trying to get some CBT sessions as it might work better than reading a book about it. My therapist set me weekly challenges that took me out of my comfort zone and whilst I hated it at the time, I definitely think it helped me break out of my cycle of anxiety. Have you talked to your gp about this ? It could be that he could refer you for CBT.

I have so much sympathy for you as I know how horrible health anxiety is - I still have it but it is more under control than it was and if I can do it then I'm sure you can too.It's just a case of finding a method that works for you.

xxx

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Iworryalot · 03/03/2009 18:32

Thank you for your wise words they help a great deal ... and so true the things your describing are exactly how i should be thinking to .my reflexologist sets me tasks to try make me think posative not negative, as she said iv got so used to thinking that way , got to retrain posotive thoughts ..i find talking is good to but all my friends ( which arnt many ) are sick of me going on , my dh is good and does listen but he has alot going on with work to so i dont want to add worries for him , but i know he is there if i need him .
my gastroologist also is putting me in touch with a councilor who may be able to help i think she may be CBT not sure waiting for more detail ,

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Iworryalot · 03/03/2009 18:55

thank you to watsthestory to for listening to me and advice

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Winetimeisfinetime · 03/03/2009 19:27

It sounds like you are on the right road to sorting this out iwal. I know when I was in the worst throes of my anxiety I tried all sorts of things, thinking there would be a magic cure but unfortunately there wasn't. When I tried CBT I initially thought it hadn't really helped but I later realised it had - it seemed to trigger a difference in my thought processes. I definitely think it is worth pursuing CBT even if it means paying for a few sessions if you can afford it.

It just needs something to help shift your thought patterns from catasrophising things to thinking that the most likely outcome is it will turn out to be ok. Hopefully CBT might just help you with that.

summer111 · 03/03/2009 19:55

Iworryalot, re the breast concerns, I'm thin and small chested and a breast specialist I saw a few years back told me that being thin makes every lump and bump much more noticable - you feel things that a larger woman wouldn't..a lump that I had got myself in a tizz over was in fact a lymph node - the specialist told me that if you are thinner, they can be easily felt and often confused with someting more sinister!

Exercise is proven to elevate your mood and diminish general anxiety - if you try to aim for 3x 40min sessions a week, you might find it helps!

Iworryalot · 04/03/2009 08:14

thankyou winetime and summer , i agree with both your comments , i must also NOT GOOGLE this is the worst thing for me and people with health anx as it just feeds and maintains the anxiety .
will try to have better day today NO will have better day today hope you do to x

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