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Does this sound odd? Not really sure where to post it? Please reply if you can....

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lisalisa · 15/02/2009 23:51

I feel a bit like I'm losing my marbles...please read on and tell me what you think.

I have 5 kids. Since being pregnant wiht no 3 I became a bit shouty. I thought it was just pregnancy but shoutiness has persisted. Also developed an extreme sensitivity in last 3 months to mess to the extent that I have to close my eyes when in a messy room and have been known regularly to completely lose it when confronted with room full of clutter. Obviuosly 5 kids make a lot of mess!!! Sensitivity getting worse in that now my hands shake and I start getting hot and cold when faced with mess and clutter. Feel a sense of complete and utter hopelessnes as well.

Getting mroe and more tired recently. This weekend i spent most of saturday in bed. Today was worst so far and has made me wonder what on earth is going on. I got up at 9.45am and then felt very tired and dizzy - almost as if I am walking sideways. Came down to find dh merrily making a very messy breakfast with all 5 kids. Felt the familiary weakenss at th emess and began to scream. Cue kids crying in all directions and dh and I had a massive row. I went upstairs in tears and , exhausted, fell asleepn intermittenly until 5.00pm so really teh whole day asleep. not really eaten much today.

Just wondering whether i cuold be having a nervous breakdown or soemthing hormonal? |I am ok at work - very rational and competent - its just at home where all 5 kids talk at once and want things togetehr and make mess that I get a kind of vertigo - almost like an allergy and it has now gotten worse into this tiredness wher I can sleep all day to escape.....

thanks for reading if you've got this far....

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dizzydixies · 15/02/2009 23:53

my God lisa and like that and I only have 3.

I'd make sure you don't have a hormonal imbalance or something just to be sure

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lisalisa · 15/02/2009 23:56

dizzy - are you really like that though or just a bit sensitive about mess? I get weak kneeed and trearful and hot and cold etc - I thought there must be something definately wrong?

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chilledmama · 15/02/2009 23:59

It can be perfectly normal to live life differently at work as apposed to home. I would say though that totally loosing it now and again is fine but if you are asking the question then you probably don't feel like this something you have control of. As dizzy said, probably best to get checked by GP for obvious hormonal things but may be that actually what you need is to talk to somebody about why mess is creating such a stress for you. HTH

catMandu · 16/02/2009 00:01

I say get yourself to the Dr's my love.

I have three and I avoid their bedrooms, hate mess and am driven insane by them all talking to me at the same time, but I don't get the kind of reaction you're talking about.

See this as good news, I suspect there's a way to help you through this. Could you have had some pnd after dc number 3?

dizzydixies · 16/02/2009 00:03

not with the hot and cold, I'm always far too hot but I put that down to being overweight

I can however react to the slightest thing from absolutely nowhere when I've managed to cope with the big things no problem

I fell asleep on the couch this afternoon and thats after having 2 full nights sleep for the first time in ages thankfully DD3 was upstairs in her cot sleeping and DH was here for the other 2

I took citalopram for PND after DD2 but haven't taken anything this time as I think I'm doing ok

I do strongly believe though that if you are having ANY health issues at all you need to get checked as your health is absolutely vital, I cannot stress this enough when you have a large family to cope with

your lethargy may be something or it may be nothing but it needs to be checked, esp if it is affecting your appetite as that will just end up in a viscious circle

snifflewitch · 16/02/2009 00:08

hey lisalisa - perhaps worth a trip to the gp and get some blood tests? I had something very similar and it turns out I'm anaemic. well worth getting checked out.

Humpdebump · 16/02/2009 00:09

You are recognising there is something not right, which is a step in the right direction. Don't let it go unchecked. Sleeping to escape is a sign of depression (on many different levels). Wanting things to be tidy and in order I would say is naturally also what you need to be able to cope (tidy house, tidy mind), especially in a large family - and if its not happening its a feeling of losing control. Do you think you are able to seek out some professional advice? I mean from a doctor or other health professional? I couldn't say that its not hormone related but it also sounds stress related to me (to be expected when living as a large family).

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lisalisa · 16/02/2009 00:09

|Hmmm - yes \I think so - sleeping all day until 5.00pm cannot be normal, no?

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dizzydixies · 16/02/2009 00:10

with 5 kids I can't imagine how you're not exhausted but if you're getting your sleep at night then no, you need to be checked out

Twistle · 16/02/2009 00:30

Please get your thyroid function checked. Irritability and extreme tiredness are among the symptoms of underactive thyroid. Can also be triggered by pregnancy/childbirth.

I only got really shouty once I had 3, but that's also when my thyroid went underactive.

Hope you feel better soon.

dizzydixies · 16/02/2009 09:28

oh oh I may try that too!

thanks twistle

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lisalisa · 16/02/2009 09:41

Am already diagnosed underactive thyroid twistel and have been a bit shaky recently in taking meds but don't think its thius as deficiencey is very minor an dusually first sign for me is constipation.

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MarmadukeScarlet · 16/02/2009 09:47

Lisalisa, I'm sorry you are feeling so unwell. I think a trip to GP is in order.

I have a few similar issues, busy shops, noisy crowded places/children make me feel hot and confused - like all the noise echoes round in my head and I cannot hear anything apart from 'noise' iyswim. I have had to leave shops and soft play before now.

It is more under control than it was, although I do not think ever as extreme as yours (I am now used to chaos in the home) but I still avoid shopping at busy times.

fwiw, I am hypothyroid also.

BBBee · 16/02/2009 09:49

sounds like anxiety and depression to me.

doctors.

is sortable.

good luck.

Elibean · 16/02/2009 10:45

It does sound like anxiety/depression, especially as yo'ure ok at work and its being triggered by mess/confusion/chaos/out-of-controlness.

You're dealing with an awful lot, and I do agree good idea to get GP check you out...in case you're anaemic etc as well. But personally I would ask GP to refer me for counselling too - at the very least, you'd get some quiet space for just YOU.

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