Lost of sex drive..

[parker1313]

Is there anything I can take to lift my sex drive.I never feel the urge.

good amount of sleep, some you time, and a healthy diet... the healthy diet sould make sure your getting everything your body needs and are not running on empty.

Im very very healthy.I have a really good diet.Im maitaining my weight from a year ago from reaching goal weight in Feb 08.

maybe your just a bit worn out and stressed?? ..

not much help really but it will bump it for you.

After I got pregnant My sex drive dissappeared..being 19 it espec. sucks!!

My baby's 6 mnth old and it's still not back.
I didn't want my partner to lose out espec. since he understands & doesn't pressure me bout it!
So I'd give in to at least 1 of his hints for sex and when I got there it was fine.

If you think of something your partner is really good at sexually like in foreplay get him to do it e.g oral sex app. this works quite well; and it can kick start you.

Or what I done was gave my partner sex as little as 1-2times a week & then took it all away for 3 weeks & it really made my body miss that little bit of sex and since then my libido has gone up a bit.

Try stuff like buying underwear that makes u feel good coz guys are suckers 4 that sorta stuff.. orr... erm thinking bout sex scenarios in your head while ur partners at work and then by the time he comes back..
U need time 4 the last 1 though.
Try them and see, thy helped me get through the last year! good lucks!!

erotic fiction? a friend of mine said it did absolute wonders for hers.

All these tips are good, But don't forget there can be a medical cause. If you in apparantly good health, still find your partner attractive, and are not just generally exhausted, I would se Gp to rule out a medical condition

"gave my partner sex as little as 1-2times a week"

i did it twice in the whole of 2008

for me its because relationship is not going well and lots problems between me and dp. i do fantasise about other people

Oh frenchie seriously..if u have a sexdrive dunno how u survived!! I loved my sexdrive when it was there!!!

Yeah my partner has a reaaaallllyyy high sexdrive & I dont think it's fair on him so I just lie there & say go on then! But I end up really enjoyin myself!

I've learnt that trust & sex are two major parts to a relationship. As long as you don't let the fantasy become a reality it's fine becoz guys do the same they just dont tell us...no matter how decent they are!! =P

If you dont mind me asking was it anything like a spark going out thats made your the relationship go a bit pleh?

are you taking the pill or minipill or have a mirena coil or implant, or other drugs, antidepressants esp?. all of these can drop your sex drive.

I second erotic fiction.

Also making time for sex is quite important, booking/planning a night in, preparing by having a nice bath, sexy underwear. texting each other rude messages can be fun too. it's all part of the 'foreplay' for parents!!

And, the more you do it the more you want it. 'use it or lose it' kind of thing.

I think by reading all these things means that its cuz I have issues in my realtionship and simply dont feel comfortable anymore.
Frenchie-I too think of others!!

I posted a similar message a few months back but only got a small number of responses, most of which were in the vein of "welcome to parenthood".

I don't think it necessarily means there are relationship problems. How old is your DC if you don't mind me asking?

I had a lot of time and energy for sex before DD, now it's less important to me. I think being a parent fulfils a lot of the need for sex i previously had (if that doesn't sound odd, you know what I mean?).

Being a parent also generally means less sleep, more things to consider on a minute-by-minute basis, literally less energy, emotional and physical for sex.

I also have hang-ups about my body which make me less adventurous than before (a lot less). I don't have any stretch-marks, but my neather regions are somewhat altered and I am very conscious of it.

Only you know what you are thinking and feeling about sex. But I would say if your DC is under one, give yourself time.

My dc are 1 and 4.
I just dont know what it is.Scared of going docs about sex.Feel embarrassed.How would i start the conversation!!

Then ask your health visitor if you find them more approachable.

I only asked about ages because in the first year I think most mums would agree they are still so tired (and hormonal if still breastfeeding) they often don't feel like it.

It sounds weird but recently I've been watching a lot of sex and the city and it's made night times interesting LoL

I mean just last night me n my partner were sitting playing the little big planet game & i dont really like games but this 1 ur a team of funny wee characters & we had a good laugh and then we watched sex how to do everything & we had the most amazing night & this morning I've had the butterflies and its like made evrything all fresh just by hangin out with each other & stuff!

damiana is supposed to be a good herbal sex drive booster (available Holland and Barrat etc)

the other thing which is important is to talk to your partner. let him know it is not because you don't fancy him etc. See if he can 'help?' A couple of evenings with no pressure to have sex, but lots of kissing and cuddles and stroking and massage might work wonders.