(TMI and [sad]) Experience and hopeful stories of vaginal or uterine prolapse?

[becstarlitsea]

Oh dammit, feeling utterly miserable about this. Haven't been checked yet - have just made a GP's appointment but I'm pretty sure I've got a prolapse. I was putting in a tampon and there was something there... I had lots of tears when my son was born - deep third degree and quite a few of them - and there was some nerve damage which made it difficult for me to exercise my pelvic floor properly as I couldn't feel it. I thought that I'd got the hang of it by working with an ob-physio for a while, but maybe not... And I haven't been doing my PFEs nearly often enough for someone who really needed to. Dammit, dammit, am very tearful. Can anyone say anything hopeful and kind to me?

Oh you poor thing, i totally sympathise with you. I also have a vaginal prolapse from first childbirth. (from 3rd degree tears)
Have been checked by hospital, but they wont do anything until you have finished having family, well just gave birth to DS3!

The best info i can offer is
Dont carry heavy items for long periods of time, this creates a heavy feeling down below, also you may experience this heavy/dragging feeling more so when you are due on/on.
After a while (6mths approx) you get to the point where you arnt so aware of the prolapse, only if you get the dragging feeling.
I hope i dont come across as crude, but sex helps in the sense that it pushes all up, but this is a while after childbirth,
I hope i have made you feel a bit better and not worse.
But you do end up living with it, get used to the feeling.
Feel free to ask anything if you need to
Regards
Mel
xx

Thank you so much Mel, very kind of you to come & hold my hand! You don't come across as crude at all - bit difficult to talk about this without calling a spade a spade isn't it? All so very embarrassing... I feel utterly crap about myself, it's really hit my self-esteem for some stupid reason.

DH was very kind to me this morning before he left for work, I've been in tears intermittently since 8am...

I expect I've made it worse by carrying DS around a lot (he's 2 and a half now), and I give in to 'Mummy, want cuddle, carry me!' far too often. So I need to stop doing that, clearly. And I've had a persistent asthmatic cough all my life which probably hasn't helped. Oh dammit, dammit. I've made an appointment with my GP and with the ob-physio I saw before.

Thank you for answering Mel, it makes me feel better knowing I'm not alone with it.

It is hard not to lift heavy things when you have youngsters, its like saying not to carry heavy things in pregnancy!
I dont know if it makes things worse at all, but it can make you feel uncomfortable or "aware"
Try to carry him more on your hip, feels better than across stomach.
Know where you are coming from with the asthmatic cough!
When you have a coughing fit, i know it helps alot if you are sitting down, more comfortable than standing.
Please email anytime. I know easier said than done, but try not to get to down. i will always chat if you need to.
Good luck with the DR's let me know how you get on.
Take care

Thank you for being so kind. Will let you know. Am feeling much better just for talking to someone about it.

hi, i utterly totally understand your feeling. i have prolapse after 1st child. i had tears but they were so mnay tiny ones, and i think they said 2nd degree. i had loads little stitches done.
i now have 2 dc, i went see consultant when i was pg with second time, as mw was not sure to recommend normal birth due to prolapse. i have other problems too, bladder, pelvic floor, nerves etc...
my consultant told me to go and have natural birth as damage is already done, second one wont make further harm. i now waiting for surgery to remove prolapse, uplift bladder, add mess tissues to my pelvic floor muscle.
but please do not think you got to live with it. you must go see your gp, and perssist you want to see specialist. if you dont ask you dont get it. so you must do it.
i have lovely consultant, she told me majority of woman live it,which is very sad. you need to be checked, to find out what size is your prolapse, is there other problems etc...
good luck

Thank you no5. I would love another child, DH not so sure. I was a bit worried that this might mean I definitely couldn't, so I'm glad to hear you've got another one as I'm not ready to give up on that idea just yet. Thanks for your advice also, your words will help me to be assertive with my GP about getting some specialist help. I'm so embarrassed about it. My DH is such a kind man, but I'm worried he's going to be thinking 'bleargh' at the thought of having sex with me now. Oh, here comes the crying again...

i understand, men they all the same, we went to see consultant together, and dh was like "its no difference to me, its your body, sex is fine, no problems"
i was quite angry and sad. i felt like he accepts that my body is no longer the same as it was before having dc. i been told i have quite big vaginal damage including prolapse, tears as both dc were big, and 2nd one was late. also both was breech untill late so some unlucky woman like me have pelvic muscle problems afterwards, as my consultant said human body is all different, and body cope different with each pregnancy.
if i was you i will call gp right now and bppk appointement. its good that you are feeling emotional. when i went gp firs time after 9m given birth, i was told it was toally normal etc.. and then i went after 15m so, i was very upset, i cried all the way thru, my gp refered me to city general straightaway. your dh sounds supportive, my dh is been great thru my second pregnancy, and he will take 3m off work when have surgery as i wont be walking fast, lifting for first month or so
by the way, by seing someone you understand more about prolapse and etc... some prolapse can be harmless, just left muscle tissues from stitches after tear. some can be linked into back passage or bladder, so its aways best being checked. how old is your baby? anyway

I have booked appointment no5. It's not until Monday though as I can't see female GP until then. I think I'll be able to cry on cue through the appointment without any problem though [tearful ] My DH is very supportive, he's a lovely man. And he seemed to understand why I was so upset this morning.