All I can say with the Soy is keep trying, it took months really for it to be accepted! The rice is quite nice though isn't it - after a while they forget what Cows dairy products taste like anyway - they now don't like the taste of cows milk!
Goats cheese is quite a strong (and aquired taste!) but you could start by just adding a bit grated to dishes? The Reggio Emilio one in Tesco's is exactly the same as Parmesan so great with Spag Bol,
Definetly try flavouring the milk - as I said before I still have to now! But if it gets some calcium into them (and protein) I don't mind.
My dd still reacts to Bovine products now - if she has it by accident, or if we are away and its difficult to find Soya. It just confirms to me how healthy she now is though when she avoids all beef, gelatine and dairy. She knows which sweets have it in etc now and is quite and expert (10). I think it will just have to be a way of life for her and to be honest with all the BSE probs its not the end of the world.
Funnily enough, when she was a baby, pureed beef was the only thing she would not even open her mouth too, which I thought was weird at the time!
Good luck tomorrow, lets hope that you get you dd sorted out and they come up with some solutions for you