shaky and tearful

[mooseloose]

Hi, just wondered if anyone has any bright ideas to make me feel more settled, without any pills. My son has been in and out of hospital the last few weeks, and I have tried to juggle work too, but it's ended up that I was obviously doing too much, thinking about too much, and worrying too much, and now I feel rotten. Cried at work Monday, and was told I shouldn't really be in work in this state. So I have took the rest of the week off, on their advice. Feel a bit of a prat getting in such a state at work.
So now I feel trembly, butterflies in stomach, had a headache (migraine yesterday but ok today), and worried about something, but I don't know what. So today I am going to chill (no hospital today, ds at school). But I just feel horrible and on the verge of tears. I'm sure its something short term. But I wondered what i can do to help myself. I bubbly cheerful usually. Don't know whether i should go to work next week, or get a note. DH tells me I'm fine.

Hi Moose, sorry to hear you are still feeling shaky - a trip to the hospital with your ds is probably not the most relaxing way to spend a day - could your dh not be persuaded to take over for a bit while you recover?

I wonder if we could collectively find something he could read about the physical effects of stress that would make him take this a bit more seriouslY. (will have a search later.)

If you are taking a week off, you really should be resting, although I know that's practically impossible with small dc. Could you get some extra help in such as baby-sitters or family to help while you grab some time out?

Hope things start to improve for you soon and try and get your head down or go for a massage or whatever gives you repose! x

I was ok at hosp, better than i thought. DH came with me too.

I have left the anxiety paperwork out for dh to read - it is very good actually- it could have been written about me!

I think the reason that he is puzzled is that its just not like me to fall apart at all! He did tell me that I was doing too much the other day, and told me to have a sit down.

I had a bit of a "breakdown" 10 years ago. Alcoholic ex stalking, ASD DS and work putting a lot of pressure on me (takeover/merger of company). In the end I woke up one morning and couldn't stop being sick and then I started to hyperventilate.

Doctor came out to see me (those were the days ) and put me on diazipan (sp?) to calm me down (but only for 5 days) and wouldn't sign me off for longer than 2 weeks as he said I needed to get back to "normal" as soon as possible and the longer I was off work the harder it would get. As it was I went back before the 2 weeks was up.

My life is even more stressful now with 4 boys and working etc. I keep promising myself that I will take up horseriding again as I swear when I had my horse (15 yrs ago now) it was the only time when mentally I felt very well. It was very relaxing and I was out in the great outdoors. But it is very difficult to find the time and money.

Try and give up some control - let the housework go a bit etc.

It is very difficult making time for ourselves but if we don't look after ourselves we can't look after anybody.

I do try and be selfish sometimes (otherwise I would go mad).

that's good advice from countingto10

glad you had some support at the hospital Moose and hope you continue to take it steady

Hi,thanks for the advice. back at docs on wed. Went to town on friday, and had a panic in the shops. Went out to dh work dinner dance and one there too. just went shaky and legs went to jelly, and felt breathless, just for no particular reason. Shaky today. I just want to feel settled again.

If you're feeling breathless, you could be hyperventilating (ie panicking) so breathe into a paperbag (not easy if you're out and about I know) - it stops you taking into too much oxygen. I'd actually paralysed myself with hyperventilating which is why the doctor stuck me on the diazipam - just to calm me down before sticking me on AD's for the anxiety.

Hope you're feeling better soon.