Anti-depressants

[Chinchilla]

I am on Cipralex, and have been for about 2 months now. I have been feeling much better, but today am feeling incredibly down. It is not PMT, because it is the wrong time. Last night and the night before, I had dreams about my first love, who died in a car crash when he was 19 (we were not together then, but it still affected me). I never normally dream about him, and the two dreams one night after another have really affected me. I am feeling very dissatisfied with my relationship with dh, and beginning to question whether I should start a new life with ds, on our own. However, I strongly believe in my marriage vows, and keep hoping that things will get better. Some of you will already know that dh is a control freak, and makes me feel very inferior.

Has anyone on ADs experienced a dip in effectiveness of theirs after a short while? I am so down today that I do not know what to do with myself. Dh is out tonight, and ds is asleep, so at least I have some time to myself.

Hi I'm new to this cyber stuff so you'll have to excuse the lack of jargon.

I can't really help with your problem but i was keen to see that you are taking Cipralex as i have been trying to find out some info like side effects.

I can't think of any highs and lows while i was on prozac but i came off of them for 10 weeks and in that time i had 3 or 4 really good days and i thought yeah i'm ok then i'd get really bad days and i think that is worse.It really knocks you to feel like your going backwards.

Lets only hope the sun is out tomorrow and it's a good day.One day at a time.

I think it is probably normal to have down days even on the ad's. I have heard that it can take a good 4 months for the full effects to be seen. I'd say hang in there and try to be good to yourself. Do as many things as you can that you get any pleasure out of and if you continue to feel awful maybe your doctor could give you something else?

Chinchilla, I am sorry that you are feeling like this. I do hope tomorrow is a better day, I have been off my ad's for a while now, and still have good days. I love my DH very much and I often remember while on the pills I doubted my love for him and more than a few times I considered leaving him and starting my life again. Now I am getting better I have more confidence in myself and know I couldn't be without him now, what I am trying to say is remember the old saying, how can you expect someone to love/like you when you don't yourself. I know that with PND is makes you doubt everything good you ever thought about yourself.

Try and remember what your relationship was like before you became ill, was it good then.

On a totally different note, my aunty suffered panic attacks and depression for years, until her dh left her for another women, after she got over the inital shock and upset, it was like she was set free, he put her down in such a way it was so subtle she didn't even realise he was going it, ie she would say she was going to the supermarket and he would say something like "I'll come with you, you know what you are like you'll forget something and won't manage", and she came round to his way of thinking that she couldn't do the easiest of things.

Anyway only you know what is best for you, don't rush into anything, wait until you are thinking more clearly. If you need/want to chat further ask tech to pass on your email and I would be happy to chat to you.

take care chinchilla XXX

Thanks Breeze - that's lovely of you. I'll see how I am tomorrow!

Chinchilla, I do hope that you are feeling better today.

Hmmm, a bit. I am tired, and ds is screeching because I dared to put him to bed for a nap when he was tired! We'll see, but I really appreciate you thinking of me

Not to worry, I have been there, and still go there at times now.

Don't worry my DS had a paddy yesterday because he was thirsty and I got him a drink in the wrong coloured cup. My mind reading abilities didn't work yesterday.

Not a good day unfortunately. On the plus side, I had a hair cut today, and had 2.5 hours to myself, which was nice. Dh informs me that I look like Babs Windsor from Eastenders (well I would if hair was blonde), so he obviously doesn't like this cut either. I don't know, he told me to have a bob, and when I do (graduated, so as not to look frumpy), it still isn't good enough. We are just not getting on at the moment. We have occasional laughs, but the bad outweigh the good.

Oh well, tomorrow is another day as they say. Night night

I do hope today is better for you chinchilla, I do know exactly where you are coming from in the DH front, a while ago dh and I were fighting all the time and I seriously considered leaving him, now 12 months down the line, I am feeling a bit better about myself and dh and I are getting on much better, we still row (I think we both love it, its the making up afterwards ), I remember feeling so low about myself that everything he did/say I put under the microscpope and blew out of all proportion, for example, if he tripped over someone and said "I could of broke my neck", I took it as he was actually saying, I tripped over that because your not well, to lazy to do any housework and I am getting sick of it and you, of course that wasn't the case, but thats how I felt. if a friend cancelled on me, it was because they were sick of me too, when the truth was that they had kids that were sick and it couldn't have been avoided.

I do rememeber while I had the black cloud over me (thats what it reminds me of), I arranged for ds to go to mil for the night, while I made a special effort with dh, I cooked him a basic meal (because I couldn't do anything complicated without having a panic attack), and layed the table and got some candles, he really appreciated it and we had the best talk in ages, is something like this possible to get you and dh back on track.

Sending you lots of good wishes for a better day.

Oh and on the haircut thing, some men do not like change or do not know how to give a decent compliment. I am sure it looks nice, and if you are happy with it then thats all that matters.

Chinchilla,

How did the weekend go?, Hope you are feeling a bit brighter today.

Hey there. I am on Fluoxetine, which used to be called Prozac. I think half the population (if not more) are on some sort of AD.

Chin up - it gets you through the day :-)

Yes, I'm definitely happier today. Just had lunch with SIL, and our two dss. Had a chat with dh last night, after a particularly horrible day with him. Ds was playing up, and dh was totally out of order. However, we chatted, and I feel a bit better. He is out of the house today, so I am enjoying some time on the pc.

dcolagirl, only Eli Lilley make Prozac and can call it that, but you are right Prozac is Fluoxetine Hydrochloride when made by other companies such as Sterwin who make a lot of generic drugs. The composition can be slightly different and if you have started on Prozac as I did and then get given Fluoxetine H as I did, there can be a sensitivity to the difference. After that I got my GP to write DAW ( dispense as written) on my prescription so I always got Prozac.