dh has been told he needs to be circumcised.........

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he's 33

any one know how long the wait is and what can we expect???

tia xx

I just asked my DH who was circumcised aged almost 33, at the beginning of this year. He said take a week off work afterwards because he couldn't cope with 'proper' trousers on. That was in an office, if your DH is in a physical job then he'll need longer. For the first couple of days he couldn't do anything other than sit on the sofa with no pants on (on a towel!) and be waited on hand and foot. Tell him to make sure he keeps on top of his painkillers. It wasn't out and out pain apparently, it was more that when he got a stiffy it pulled on the stitches. Day times were better for that cos he could think about things to make it go soft again, but night times were more painful as he'd wake up with a stiffy and it was sore! That said, he was 'enjoying playing with his new toy' after about a month. It took him a while to get used to the sensitivity without a foreskin too. Don't know about the wait, he got a phonecall one day to say they had a cancellation for the next day, and took it up as I was quite pg and we didn't want to run the risk of him being out of action help-wise when I had the baby! Oh, he said it took longer than he expected for all the stitches to fall out too. Hope that's some help! If you have any more questions I'll ask my DH for you.

My dh was circumstised in September the same time as he had his vascetimy. He is 42.
Definately second the keep on top of the painkillers advice and yes he was pretty sore with a stiffy He did actualy find slightly tighter pants helped but that may just be because of his snip rather than the circumstision.
He had to wait about 9 months for the op but then again that was the snip too. Gave us enough time to concieve ds5
Salt baths helped too. Not too hot.
Again after about a month he was his usual happy self but took a bit of time to get used to a different type of sensativity so to speak.
All the best to him x

My DH was circumcised at 29. He had it done privately so don't know about the wait. Go along with what Knitter said. DH was very sore for the first week. He went around with a sheet wrapped around like a sarong. The stitch site was scabby and pus filled. And they "pinged" in the morning with the morning "flagpole".

The funniest thing was MIL telling all his staff at the office (when she found out what he was having done) that she wished she had pushed his foreskin back more when he was little . DH was mortified.

BTW it's much better without the foreskin for both of us.

I will be pleased to put any questions to DH.

Another thing, straight after the op DH's willy disappeared - looked like a button mushroom. I thought it was hysterical (I'm not a good/sympathetic nurse).

Funny what countingto10 said about DH's willy. My husband had the opposite problem - looked like he was hung like a donkey, and it didn't get any better after a couple of days. It took me to point out to him that this really wasn't normal, even if pretty impressive, and when he pulled back the remaining skin from his stitches, tonnes of pus came out... Moral of that story is clearly that a mushroom is a better result! He had to have antibiotics for a week, which slowed the recovery down, and did take a few months to get used to the altered sensation (and the fact that the infection site didn't heal brilliantly, so for the first few months would bleed a bit after intercourse or look very sore - not a problem at all, now, though). He had his done on his work private health insurance and, due to the nature of his job, had to take about 10 days off work.

thanks for all those -funny- helpful hints. i will pass them on to dh......his work is very physical - do you think he'll need to go on light duties???

would you mind me asking why all your dh's had it? Dh snapped his frenulum about 10 years ago and apparently with the scar getting tighter pulling back his foreskin got more and more painful - took ages to get him off to the docs - he's shy

is sex different without a foreskin then? - sorry but i've never slept with a circumcised man

tia xxxx

My DH had this at the age of 43. DO make sure yours has at least a week off and goes on light duties. My DH flew to Australia for work a week after his operation (I didn't want him to go, thought it was too soon and he obviously wasn't recovering well) - and he ended up being stretchered off the plane and spending a few days in a Melbourne hospital, having lost a huge amount of blood on the plane! (There are photographs, it's horrible . . )

All is fine now, though.

Mine had a tight foreskin. I didn't want to go into too many details about his previously sex life but he did tell me he had always used condoms and it hadn't been a problem until he met me and didn't use them.

I was surprised how painful and disabling he found the operation (or it could have been that he liked being waited on, hand and foot )

I found sex was better after he was circumcised (but sex was very "restrictive" for him before IYSWIM).

Dh had this done before he met me, when he was in his early 20s. what he said is the same as all other posters, all pretty straight forward except erections were painful for about 10 days afterwards. He didn't have any complications from what he tells me.

Says sex improved by miles for him, from what I gather it was quite painful for him before.

My husband's foreskin had always been a bit too tight - he would get what I think they call paraphimosis during intercourse (the foreskin would pull right back but then get stuck, causing the tip of his penis to swell a bit and making it extremely painful and difficult to pull the foreskin back over the head of the penis again). With condoms it was OK, but without it became so painful to have sex that it started to cause erection problems, because he was scared of the pain. We had to conceive ds1 by cutting a hole in a condom... I suspect the problem could have been treated by stretching and steroid creams given that the foreskin could retract fully, albeit it would then get stuck, but once it started causing problems with his erections (ie psycho-sexual problems), he didn't want to try other methods that may take some time and not work - he was embarrassed enough by the whole thing as it was and just wanted to certain resolution.

Dh's foreskin got tighter over a period of time and sex was very painful for him. It tore slightly at one point.
Sex is different without the foreskin. It erm how can I put this doesn't feel as thick! Does that make sense? It svery smooth now but we soon got used to it

sorry if this is prying but is it different for the man too. dh is quite shy and wouldn't ask the gp or consultant - are their any down sides too it appart from the pain and discomfort at the beginning?

Dh reckons its less sensative if that makes sense. I din't see how but must admit he does last a bit longer since having it done. Looks better in my opinion too

Just had a word with DH. He says once the initial discomfort subsides and you get your confidence back in your willy , sex gets better and better. Would not want his foreskin back!!!

I've heard of people taking off anywhere from 2 to 6 weeks, but that doen't put his tongue out of action.

May I ask why he thinks he needs circumcision? Depending on where a doctor was trained, s/he may not be aware of all the options for treating things without amputation of the foreskin and its thousands of exquisite pleasure-receptive nerve endings.

I just saw your note about tight frenulum.

Frenuloplasty solves tight frenulum usually without amputating anything and definitely without circumcision.

If your husband doesn't care enough about the quality of his sexual experience to ask a doctor about side-effects before having a body part amputated, maybe you can step in and ask on his behalf. Without the foreskin his glans and mucosa will dry and get somewhat numb. This will cause him to need rougher stimulation to get anywhere during sex. This affects you.

TLC- I have to disagree- my DH was circumcised as a child and he has no problems with friction- in fact he suffers more from prem ejac than anything.

Absolutely shocked by the advice given here. It's really unfair the way you are all so quick to suggest surgery for your partners. One thing none of you have even considered mentioning is that the tissue lost during this surgery is erogenous. Not only does a man have to lose a large amount of very sexually sensitive tissue, leaving the glans exposed causes a huge loss of sensation to that area as well.

The penile tissue is extremely versatile and responds very well to stretching. If your partner is experiencing discomfort due to tightness, I strongly suggest advising him to use simple stretching exercises. This works very well on it's own, but if the problem persists a steroid cream can be prescribed to loosen the skin.

Don't make the same mistake I did, it's a cruel, pointless, incredibly painful and highly damaging procedure. I had surgery which has completely destroyed my life, I have to live the rest of my days with the knowledge that I'll never feel what sex is supposed to be like ever again. I beg of you to not be so quick to hack bits off without considering the consequences and far less damaging options long before something so drastic.

It seems the OP's husband has been advised he needs it, the replies weren't promoting it Calcos

^ MIL telling all his staff at the office ... that she wished she had pushed his foreskin back more when he was little ^

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Only the owner should ever try to retract a foreskin. If he's not old enough to do it himself it doesn't need done.

No penis owner should ever be discouraged from manipulating his foreskin. The OP's husband being too shy to talk to a doctor about sex is a clue that perhaps he is also from a shaming home that discouraged him from touching himself. That's commonly associated with foreskin problems, but 3 - 6 months of gentle stretching exercises with Betamethasone ointment will make most phimotic men comfortably retractable. The cases where circumcision is actually warranted are exceedingly rare, like one in 10,000 rare.

Has he tried using a glansie? A mate of mine couldn't get his skin back, tried this for a few weeks and then had no problem:
www.glansie.com/

The ladies here all seem to have had no problems but if you google around there are a lot of men who regret having a circumcision. It is very painful as an adult and he will definitely lose sensitivity.

stkcarm5

You should get a second or third opinion. Here's a second opinion for me:

If he can't retract his foreskin (phimosis) or if his frenulum is too short (frenulum breve) he doesn't need circumcision. There are non surgical wauys to cure this. He doesnt need to go through unecessary and painful surgery that will desensitize him later in life.

He can search or google phimosis exercises and frenulum breve exercises as well as research phimosis and frenulum breve as well as non surgical techniques and exercises to cure them.

I wish your husband all the best and to keep him whole. I am circumcised and regret it deeply. It was done without my consent and I wish myself I even had been intact even if I had phimosis. It can be cured.

As for infections and HIV the foreskin does not cause nor its removal will prevent any. They are prevented and cured with contraceptives and antibiotics.

And as for the look its as god intended it.

Fellow men want to restore ie: foregen.org