Is it? I had third degree tear and was stitched up in theatre. Dont have any incontinence issues for which I'm truly greatful. However, sex has never been the same since. DH and I had sex this morning and I'm still sore now. To be frank, I wasnt exactly aroused, we both fancied a quickie, and I was quite dry, but pre child-birth this wouldnt have been a problem. Sex isnt always painful, particularly if I'm feeling really in the mood, but I just wonder if I hadnt torn so badly and had so many stitches, my sex life would have remained the same ie completely pain free. It gets me down sometimes that certain positions are now painful and quickies are now out of the question. I have to be really lubricated and up for it, for sex to be pain free. I dont know whether its worth exploring surgery to improve things or not? Saw consultant after third degree tear and he said everythings healed and its tricky to do a re-stitch job.