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i am thoroughly mortified. chlamydia

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crapcrapnuts · 21/10/2008 21:16

was told by doctor today I have this, am in total shock and disgusted with myself. I don't sleep around and I use protection, just obviously not the right sort.

Please someone tell me I'm not dirty and horrid

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MrsJamesMartin · 21/10/2008 21:19

You are not dirty and horrid. Chlamydia is rife, the most common STI, generally causes few or no symptoms so therefore gets spread around. It can lay dormant for a long time aswell so you may not have got it recently.
Take the treatment and use condoms!!!

TheArmadillo · 21/10/2008 21:19

you're not dirty and horrid.

It can be transmitted through one night and you can have it for years before you notice.

Many people get it.

If you have a partner make them get checked out as well.

bundle · 21/10/2008 21:23

one of my friends had chlamydia, it didn't make me think any differently of her. another one has genital warts - so what? both are incredibly common

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crapcrapnuts · 21/10/2008 21:25

I really can't face bringing it up directly. We haven't had sex a lot, we haven't been together long. I was thinking I'd take the treatment, get retested to check I was clean and then have a test in a few weeks, if I had it again then I'd bring it up as he has to have it.

I just really can't face telling him, and I'd rather neither of us knew where it came from than run the risk of saying now and him knowing it had definitely come from me...

That's terribly selfish I know

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bundle · 21/10/2008 21:26

get a leaflet from the clinic if you can't say it to him. othewise you're going to be playing chlamydia ping-pong

TheArmadillo · 21/10/2008 21:26

You need to tell him. It is not fair to keep it to yourself. He could very well be the person who gave it to you in the first place.

Text or email if you can't do it face to face, but don't not tell him. That is the worst thing you can do.

twentynine · 21/10/2008 21:33

Ummm you don't have to tell him. The GU clinic will have sexual health counsellors who can tell him if you can't bring yourself to (but it's probably best if you do tell him yourself). BTW what makes you think he didn't give it to you?

Mind you, it doesn't matter who had it, deal with it.

You wouldn't be this embarassed if it was athlete's foot which is equally contagious! Cheer up, your bits have passed muster in all other respects and that's marvellous - you could have left this a decade and found permanent damage.

MrsMattie · 21/10/2008 21:35

You must tell him. Try not to be ashamed about this. It is very common.

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crapcrapnuts · 21/10/2008 21:40

Thats the thing though, how do I know I haven't had it a decade?

I mentioned it to the doctor, as I looked at him horrified and gulping air (dramatic I know but I really was shocked) that wouldn't this have been picked up during pregnancy/birth as they do enough swabs and tests then and apparently not.

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emma1977 · 21/10/2008 21:47

You need to have that chat with your partner. It is much more sensible for the pair of you to be treated simultaneously and get rid of the infection completely.

Its nothing to be embarrassed about- far more people have chlamydia than you would realise. In the area I work in, infection rates are 10-20% in under 25s.

Sadly, it is not currently screened for in pregnancy and is an increasing cause of female and male infertility.

Get it treated.

twentynine · 21/10/2008 21:53

It doesn't matter if you have had it for a decade! As long as you aren't experiencing symptoms of pelvic inflammatory disease you've probably picked it up recently. Look, stop worrying, it's happened, tell the bloke and get it over with. If he runs off, well he clearly was a git (and a poxy one at that ).

I had genital warts once - I was so embarrassed but apparently 1 in 4 women my age had it - I was just lucky () enough to develop obvious symptoms so I knew about it and got it treated. Oh and I was generally very responsible and chaste (but it only takes the one lapse!)

If we had a fully anonymous poll here, I bet you would find at least 1 in 3 of us had had an infection at some time!

If you are intimate enough to insert parts of his body into yours, you ought to be close enough to say 'we have a problem and you need to get tested'.

lou33 · 21/10/2008 21:56

i've had it

NorthernLurker · 21/10/2008 21:57

Unless he's been living the life of a monk he won't know whether he's given it to you or you to him so just tell him be hugely embarassed together, get treated and thats the end of it.

(oh and you're not dirty and horrid)

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