Help Pregnant!!!

[mummc2]

ok i was only on here yesterday asking what i can do to prevent long term as dont like pill and today found out im pregnant,
My brothers girlfriend is 3 months pregnant and she was going on about how much weight shes put on as always feeling sick and eating is the only thing that makes it go away. For last few days i have felt like this, but my pills last few months have been a bit crazy. So sat down and worked out this morning should have come on bout 5 days ago.
Went to chemist bought 1 test and positive!!!
Really dont know what to do? I have 2 dd's 1 and 4 in a few weeks. Im booked in for a breast reduction 6th january and all my life is just getting back on track. Havent told dh yet literally tested half hour ago.
If we dont want it is it abortion? what do they do? My husbandonly commented other day he definitely didnt want any more

I don't know what you expect people here to say.

Talk to your DH.

I agree that you need to talk to your DH and decide which way you are going from here.

"If we dont want it is it abortion?"

You can also have the baby and give him up for adoption.

"if we dont want it is it abortion" i meant this as ive heard you can take a pill and have one inserted if your below 9 weeks, only 5.

There is a pill that can be used in very early pregnancy to terminate. It is still a method of abortion though. If that's the route you want to take you need to get moving ASAP as the window for taking the pill is very small - I can't remember exactly I'm afraid - but get to the doctor today if possible to discuss your options.

You need to seek medical advice on other strategies such as morning after pill, having coil inserted etc. None of us know your medical history or date of conception.In your position I would get a GP or Family Planning appointment today if possible, or get to chemist and ask the pharmacist about the MAP.

thanks am booked in first thing 2moro and guna speak to dh when gets home tonite. But only thing is go abroad on sat so dont know if theres enough time

I guess you have to prioritise then mummc2. Some people (afaik) can have heavy bleeding on the MAP. No idea about the coil.

I would suggest having a good chat with your dh tonight and then go to your appointment and ask there about travelling, side effects etc.

Thing is, if you go on holidays rather than trying the other options (assuming they are recommended to you) you will still be pg and then you really will have limited your options. (i.e. may then have to decide on a termination)

08457 304030 - BPAS
0845 300 80 90 - Marie Stopes

You can call either of those numbers and they will be able to talk you through your options with regards to termination.

I could be wrong and I'm happy to be corrected, but I really don't think the MAP is an option at this stage, given you have had a positive pregnancy test.

Nor is the morning after pill, since you are obviously weeks past 'the morning after' conception.

no MAP isn't applicable here, but you can have I think 2 pills with in effect helps everything to come away etc - it's less intrusive than a later termination.

please think about the consequences thou - not swaying you either way, but make sure you talk about it with everyone you can (ie FP & DH etc) as a termination at any stage & time isn't an easy thing to go through. it's not as simple as popping a couple of pills and thats that - there's the emotional bit as well.

(don't mean to sound rude or harsh, but make sure you're 110%)

Mummc2, you say you are 5 weeks, but that is actually by no means certain. You could be further along.

You need to speak to DH and get a doctors appointment ASAP.

The abortion pill is called RU486 (and actually comprises two pills, taken 24-48hours apart), and can be taken if you are less than 9 weeks pregnant. There are several reasons that a woman can't take it though, so you really do need to speak to someone like Marie Stopes or BPAS to find out what options are suitable for you.

You and your dh need to have an open discussion about this tonight.

Seeing as it is still likely to be early days, you have time on your side for now, so don't feel pressured to make a snap decision in the next 24hrs.

Your options are:

1. Continue with pregnancy
2. Continue with pregnancy and adopt
3. Arrange for a termination

If you decide on 3, then you can either see your GP or family planning clinic to be referred. You can also self-refer to BPAS or Marie Stopes if you have one nearby.

Terminations under 9 weeks gestation are usually carried out using the medical method of tablets and a pessary to bring on a miscarriage. After 9 weeks, the options involve surgery. In reality, it is usually 2-3 weeks from the time of referral until the procedure itself to allow for counselling and dating scans to be arranged and allow a cooling off period.

Good luck whatever you chose to do.

thankyou everyone, me and dh had a long chat about this last night and have decided to go with a termination. We originally decided not to have any more because i have had 2 complicated and painful pregnancys and births and suffered with depression. PLus couldnt afford another.
Been to doctors this morning and been referred to hospital to see pregnancy advice service on friday. spandexismyenemy i know the emotional side too even though i am 100% sure this is right for me I've had so many thoughts running through my head and guilt about doing this, But these are feelings im guna have to talk through, i know its not guna be easy. But have also managed to talk to dh about vasectomy and we are considering.

good luck to you - MN as always will be here online with someone ready to listen if you need us

be good to yourself & your DH as well.