Do you think my husband drinks too much?

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Am I worrying about nothing?: dh and I used to drink lots before we had kids. We would polish off a bottle of wine and very occasionally two every night.

Then kids came along and I cut down, and practically stopped drinking. I can't cope with kids AND feel lousy.

However, I now think my husband drinks too much... last night he had a bottle of beer when he came in, we had a bottle of wine between us (I had half a glass and he had the rest of the bottle) and he then poured himself a whisky before bed.

He drinks every day without fail. I think he is a heavy drinker. He drinks between half and a full bottle of wine every day and has recently added shot or two of whisky to his evening tipples. I mentioned it once and he got very cross and said I was being silly. His continual guzzling now winds me up. At the weekends he pours himself a drink at lunchtime and drinks wine all the way through 'til bed time.

Am I being silly? Is it because I have stopped drinking like I used to? He seems to think that because he is rarely drunk then it is not a problem. I dare not mention it to him as he gets touchy. He has a very stressful job and uses it to wind down.

I think the original question has been answered dont you?

My husband drinks every day. He used to drink a couple of pints in the evening which increased to 4 or 5 then 6 or 7. He doesn't work now and the pints increased to 9 per day. At the moment he is drinking from 12-14 pints per day which is more than a case per day costing £9 per day and £240 per month. When I approach the subject he refuses to discuss it often becoming argumentative and verbally abusive. He reckons he is not dependent and that he enjoys it. Don't know what to do

Yes, your dh is drinking far too much. He is damaging his health and will have a shorter, less healthy life for it. He doesn't want to face that because he is using it as a crutch - his treat to look forward to after a stressful day at work. Even if not physically an alcoholic, he is an emotional one!

As for not getting drunk - bullshit. Would you trust him behind the wheel of a car after he's polished off a bottle of wine? Or flying an aeroplane?... Of course he's drunk. You don't have to slur your words, piss yourself and fall over to have impaired judgement. His judgement is impaired enough that he doesn't even realise.

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Definitely too much..

A test is could he do without a drink if you asked him? If he gets annoyed, then I think he does have a problem.

The recently added whiskey doesn't sound good. Thing is I've never known someone to react positively to the suggestion that they are drinking too much.