My mum is Diabetic (sp?) type 2 and doesn't control it at all, can anyone tell me what we should do?

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My mum was dxd about 3 years ago with type 2, and she is completely useless at controlling it. She has tablets which she thinks make the diabetes go away.
Last week she was on holiday with Lisad123 and she woke up feeling rough. Lisad123 made her check her blood sugar levels and they were 13!! SHe said that she had only just taken her tablet and when she checked a few hours later they were 8. 13 was her fasting level too. She eats chocolate, white bread, take aways, and then wonders why her blood sugars are so high.
Myself, Misdee and Lisad are at a loss of what to do. She is overweight, doesn't excerise and doesn't control her diabetes at all. My FIL lost his toes because he didn't control his, someone in Lisad's class at school died recently because of diabetes.
We are very worried..

yikes!

FIL doesn't eliminate many foods, he just watches what he eats and if there are some things he fancies that he knows will mess with his sugar levels more than others he plans out when he's going to eat it.

and the quantity, of course.

exercise helps him a lot, though.

You could join Diabetes UK, then you will start receiving their magazine Balance which has lots of info and tips and recipes. Then leave it lying around for her to see. It can take time to accept the changes needed though. My MIL was diagnosed when she was in her 60s and it took her a good few years to accept that she had to change the habits of a lifetime and get used to a different diet. My dh was diagnosed when he was 34 but he took the changes on board straight away.

Sounds like she could do with more support from healthcare professionals too. Has she seen a dietitian? dh's was fab; MIL's was awful unfortunately - she suggested such drastic changes to MIL's diet that MIL felt there was no way she could stick to it all so didn't even try any of it.

PS immediately after his diagnosis, dh found that he felt sick and wobbly when his blood sugar was actually quite high. There was a particular blood sugar level where he felt this. However this sensation abated as he got his blood sugar under control. It was as if his body had got used to high blood sugar levels.

She does see a nurse every few months, but I think she lies about her blood sugar levels etc. She thinks the tablets make it all ok and she can eat whatever she likes. this week she has gone to our caravan as the site is throwing an 'Owners Breakfast' which will be fry-up. No doubt she will be in Tesco buying chocolate and cream cakes too

you could be describing my mum. She was diagnosed about 4 years ago and was really good at first and lost about 2 stone but she has slipped into her old ways and regained all the weight.

I am very worried about her but she is an adult. IMO her biggest problem is that she is obsessed with food. It is such an emotional crutch for her. Most people with weight probs don't need a dietician but a therapist

My mum is also obsessed with food.

My dad too

dh goes for a check-up once a year and he has to have a blood test so he can't lie! They do a test for glycosylated haemoglobin which indicates how good his control has been over the last few months, so he can't even just be `good' on the day and get away with it. TBH if her control is consistently poor I am a bit surprised they have not changed/upped her medication. But it seems the main issue is that she just doesn't want to change....you have to find some way persuading her. Difficult one.

I am very worried about her, she is 14 years younger than my dad, but I get this horrible feeling that she will die first Because she is so unfit, I dread to think what her heart and all that are like.
Last week, all us girls went out to a pamper evening. Lisad123 dropped off Misdee while me and mum walked up the road, and we should have made it to the end of the road by the time Lisad123 came back for us, yet mum walks so slowly that we made less than halfway up the road. I was walking fast and she made me slow down.
She brought a bike and only managed to get to the top of her road and she had to walk back