I have made an appt with the GP...my PMT is affecting almost every aspect of my life. I think it causes half teh problems with me a dh, it certainly makes me more shouty....what will he say when I ask him for a magic solution??

[Ladytophamhatt]

Sorry for title length BTW.

I feel like I'm going insane.

As soon as I ovulate the PMT induced redmist desends and its making everything shit.

I'm not sure if its gradually turning into proper fullblown PND or depression but I really do feel like I'm clinging to snaity by my fingernails for 3 weeks of every month as I OV pretty much as soon as my period finishes.

Need to take the boys to school now but will be back soon.

please say there is a magic solution.....

my dp could not wait to get booked in.
what does your dh say about it? Is he really against it?

he turns afunny shade of green at teh mere mention of teh word.

Apart from the really not wanting any more, like newgirl I think its something he can do to save alot of worry/grief/agro for us.

I very much doubt he'll like me saying that though....I have a teeny tiny suspicion that him being teh bread winner is such a huge thing in his head that letting anyone go near his wanger with a knife if waaaay beyond anything he'd concider.

He'll think hes doing enough....

(why do I keep typing teh instead of the FGS??)

how old is he? mine turned 40 and had too many broken nights and then suddenly it seemed like a great idea - i also mentioned 'sex like teenagers' at one point

wow ! That is a big turn around isn;t it?

he's 34 newgirl.

lulu, I know. I don't really know why its such a HUGE turnaround. Ds4 is quite hard work now so I think its combination of that and realising that although I'd love a newborn I don't really want another child.

Having 4 was easy peasy up until ds4 was about 14/15 month or so but its' hardhardhard work now.

Adding another one would kill me I think.

as long as it is a decision you are happy with,. it is only in the last couple of months i have really decided NO MORE!

I'm soooooooooooo glad I'm not PG again now after all that stuff a few months back.

really, the thought of being Pg again terrifies me.

I woudl not cope with another baby at all.

LTH, my dh announced he was going for a vasectomy about 2 weeks after I idly said, before wafting out of the room, "do you know, we'd have a LOT more sex if we didn't have to faff about with condoms".

It worked like magic!

see, the thing is we have drawer full of condoms and they never get used. Dh is ok-ish with them but I hate them.

we use the withdrawal method.

which is how ds4 is here.

I'm fed up with the mess it makes as well TBH.

LTH- My dh has had the snip (granted it was his decision) but he never had any problems whatsoever. The op was done at 1 then he got the bus home and picked dd up from school at 3. He was tender in the nether regions for a couple of days but the vasectomy was done on a Friday so when he sat on the sofa over the weekendhe had a bag of peas wrapped in a towel over him just in case ds jumped on top of him! He was back at work on the Monday.

The hardest part of the whole thing is trying to collect a "samples" for testing.

I understand your inner lentil weaver concerns about the mirena coil LTH. I was exactly the same. However, it really truly has changed my life. I couldn't bear the thought of being pg again and that alone was becoming an issue for dh and me and affected our sex life. We talked about a vaectomy but I knew that I was banging my head against against a brick wall, not helped by the fact that dh's brother has had a shocking time since his vasectomy a couple of years ago.

The way I figured it was that the teeny amount of hormone in the coil was a far lesser evil for me than another pregnancy. I am a different person since I had it fitted and, for me, having a relatively small amount of hormone floating around my system is a price worth paying.

if you are so not wanting another one, you have to find a better method of contraception pronto!! withdrawal, unless you use natural family planning methods aswell, is as you know, really quite unreliable!

don't worry lulu....sex is off the agenda atm anyway.

there will deffo NOT be any more LTH children

Oh i am so glad i read this thread, i have been like this for the last few months, i was on the pill but kept forgetting to take it then ran out & never went to the doctors since coming off the pill i have been a totally miserable bitch, moody, shouty & snappy, i am going to go back to the docs & get back on the pill i think or get some anti-d's.

Hope you get it sorted LTH i know how you feel...

okey doke, hope your PMT isshoooos get sorted too

LTH re persuading dh to have the snip: I persuaded my dh. I have to say, he was not that adverse to the idea anyway so not much persuasion was needed, but IME, the best way to approach things with men is via their willies. I told dh the sex would be more frequent and more relaxed, not having to worry about condoms or possible pregnancy, and that sold it to him. I am not sure I have lived up to his expectations re the frequency of sex (every half an hour would suit dh though ) but I think he would agree with me that the lack of fear of pregnancy has helped hugely in terms of being relaxed and up for it!

Also, although I have to admit dh took a long time to get 3 clear sperm counts (18 months I think - but then he was frequently away from home and not getting rid of the little blighters and also, he has always seemed incredibly potent to me so maybe had a higher count than other men?), despite that long wait for the all clear, dh has not experienced any of the other side effects men usually fear (eg not being able to have an erection, loss of sensation, etc).

I hope you can persuade dh soon. Tell him if you can go through 4 births, he can undergo 15 minutes on the operating table - it is his turn to suffer!

I hope you get the PMT sorted soon too as it sounds awful for you.

Well, I told Dh I went to the doctors to get my PMT sorted out.

I told him I'm going to get a coil fitted because it can help with PMT but I also want him to get the snip done because I don't want there to be ANY risk of concieveing agian.

the coil is for me, to help my PMT.

his wanger being snipped if for us.

For the first time ever he didn't turn green and competely discount the idea.

Believe it or not, I'm amazed to say I think I've had a break through.....

Go on, admit it, you told him he could have kinky sex on demand if he had the snip!

Hah!

I did say something along those lines DG

However, I have mentioned it again since and he said a big fat NO.

I don't think I know my husband at all.

FFS.

god men can be such wimps! if he had to push babies out i am sure he would be ok having a teensy weensy snip - oh well. cross legs method works well too. might also focus the mind (or cause rows!)

hmm
never thought of getting acoil for PMT
interesting.
am already on ADs which have cut the dreadful days down to 1-2 (instead of a good 10 days) but those 2 are so utterly appalling that I'm looking for an additional thing

I should do the diet I know

good luck LTH